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Trying to raise DSs to be biliingual - does our nanny need to be a native speaker in the minority language?

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Gangle · 26/03/2012 21:44

I am trying to raise DSs, 4 and 2, to be biligual in French and English. DH is half French and talks to them only in French and until recently we have always had French nannies. DS2 seems pretty much bilingual as our previous nanny really pushed French and so most his words and sentences are in French. DS1 is much less so - his French used to be good but he started pre-school 4 mornings a week last September so has much less exposure to French. In addition, DH and I are getitng divorced and have not lived together for over a year and so the children don't hear French at home. I am just hiring a new nanny and was trying to get a French mother tongue nanny BUT have ended up with a Portuguese nanny who has lived in Switzerland for 5 years and so is fluent in French. She is a great nanny but I worry that it's not the same as having a native speaker. The accent is obviously different plus her grammar isn't great (according to DH) but, most of all, French does not seem to come to her automatically and I constantly have to prompt her to speak French to the children. I feel already that their French is slipping and that I need to her replace her (she is still on her probationary period) but then I wonder if it is really just a lost cause and that they aren't going to be bilingual given that they don't have a parent living at home who can speak French to them. On the other well, DS2 learnt SO much from his previous nanny and is pretty much bilingual so perhaps it is achievable. Would appreciate any views.

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FondleWithCare · 27/03/2012 12:49

I think that they can still become bilingual despite the nanny not being a native speaker as long as she only ever speaks to them in French. Accents don't matter I wouldn't imagine, children learn to speak English whether their parents speak RP or have strong Liverpudlian accents. I would just sit down with her and reiterate that it is really important to you that your children learn French and that you will be needing her to speak to them in French only. Ask her if she has any problems with it, she may have though that it would be easy and is now struggling more than she realised.

Fraktal · 27/03/2012 18:54

If it doesn't come naturally you need someone to whom it does. I firmly believe that spontaneous and natural interactions are the key to language learning.

Also bad grammar can be difficult to unlearn. So I think I would be getting rid of nanny in your shoes.

How much childcare do you need? Could you get a French not quite nanny? There are done very experienced au pairs out there.

yvette37 · 31/03/2012 19:52

Agree wholly with Fraktal. Where do you live?

Try to arrange play dates for your son with native French speakers of his own age so that you don't become the only 'French speaking channel'. Peer pressure is important and children don't like to be different. Moreover he will learn a wider range of vocabulary at school therefore he will find it easier to express his ideas in the language in which he has the most vocabulary. Try to give him a very wide French vocabulary (equivalent to that which of school).

You might find some of these links use

www.japantimes.co.jp/text/fl20090322rp.html

www.raising-bilingual-children.com/basics/info/rules/

Good luck

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yvette37 · 31/03/2012 20:09

Sorry just realised that it is your DH who is half French. Make sure that your son does a lot of activities (play-doh, painting, train sets, role plays, playing in park, kids' stuff etc..) all in French so that he has the same vocab as a French speaking kid. If necessary, if you hear some French tourists with kids, manoeuvre yourselves so that your son stands next to those kids in order to hear them talk!!!

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