Hitting in toddlers.

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Ds is 2.4, he has been known to hit or push others on occasion (when he's tired or frustrated) I do not condone this behaviour but have recently been judged scolded by others for ds outbursts.

I'm wondering if it is my parenting which is lacking or ds personality.
What can I do?

I've reposted this in behaviour and development

Children don't know the rules until we tell them. They will act instinctively, often selfishly, sometimes irrationally and it's our job to act as their conscience until they eventually form one of their own. If you have a child that's boisterous or aggressive you have to be constantly on your guard that they don't hurt others, whilst at the same time doing everything you can to deter bad behaviour and encourage good behaviour. Most people will make allowances for small children because they know it's not an overnight job to get them house-trained. However, if the child is repeatedly aggressive and you don't seem to be acting assertively or promptly enough to stop it, then expect to be unpopular.