Daughter in hospital, her father goes off on holiday!!!!

[KatyandTimsMum]

My 11yr old daughter is in a a High Dependency Unit in hopsital with a respiratory condition, and is pretty poorly, despite intensive treatment she is not improving but thank God, not deteriorating. Her father, my ex husband, has decided to go on holiday to France down to his own holiday cottage, his wife, on the spur of the moment . He doesn't feel it is necessary to come and be with his daughter! On top of which he is telling me to grow up by text, because I am trying to impress upon him how ill his daughter is!

Total twat

So sorry to hear your dd ill I hope you get good news very soon.

Your ex sounds like my dd's ex when dgs was taken to hospital with breathing problems and dd rang ex he actualy said do I have to come it means I will have to get dressed (10.30pm). When he finally got to hospital I stayed in waiting room dd and ex were with dgs they needed to get urine sample dgs who was 1 at the time had no nappy on and bed pan was ready to collect when he wee'd. DD desperate for loo asked ex to watch dgs and hold bed pan ready he refused said take him with you so she had to juggle going to loo holding son and bed pan.

Maybe, sad as it is, you are better off without ex.

I'd be cutting a prick that cares that little about his child out of our (your) lives and I'd be making it clear when he/she were well enough that their father didn't care enough to be there.

Disgusting behaviour!

You've told him. He is being a prick. Ignore him now and focus on DD. It must be heartbreaking, though, if she wants to know where her father is. I hope she starts to improve soon.

So sorry about your little girl, so scary when they are seriously ill.Hideous behaviour from your ex, I really hope that you have other sources of rl support at this tough time. Hope DD starts improving quickly and you can go home.

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter.

The behaviour from her father is just shocking :(

As others have said she is lucky to have such a lovely mum. I hope she gets better soon.

Thank you for all messages of support.

Gobble. Do you mean you would tell the child that her dad didn't care?

What wrong with you daughter op? Must be scary at the moment!

Your ex is a dick!

People who send texts that say 'grow up' when they swan off to France leaving their seriously ill child behind, in my opinion, are usually the ones who need to do more than just a tad growing up themselves. I can see why he is your EX. I hope your DD is a whole lot better soon and home with you.

for you OP. Your Ex is a twat, but you're there for your daughter.

When this is all just a horrible memory you will be able to look at your daughter and know you did everything to make her happy and get her through a difficult time. Despite horrid messages from your EX you tried to make sure he was there with her too. When she's older she'll know you did this by yourself and be so proud of you.

I hope your DD makes a speedy recovery. I am beyond shocked at your ex's callous behaviour. It might be an idea to make a note of this in case there are any future disagreements over access.

PooPooInMyToes I wouldn't put it as blunt but yes I would be honest and explain that her father had been informed of where she was and that the reason he isn't there is because he has decided to go away on holiday instead giving her the leighway to make up her own mind about him and his actions. You no doubt think thats harsh but quite frankly the guy is an arse that doesn't deserve her love and yes if he really cared about her he would be there imo, he doesn't deserve to have his actions defended and she deserves to know the truth about what he is like.

Hope your dd is better soon. For now I would focus on her and deal with the idiotic ex when she is better, you daughter will know it was you who was alongside her

Hope your daughter gets better soon and he's a prick and your well shot

gosh. I hope your DD gets better soon. It is scary when they are ill.

Your XH is a knob - but I am sure you already know that.

x

My DS had to have emergency surgery recently - I texted his father - but he couldn't get to the hospital as couldn't get out of work. WTF??? What if I had gone to work instead of taking DS to hosp?

Luckily my DH (step father to DS) drove 3 hours from where he was working to keep me company whilst my son was having a major operation.

Lots of tossers about eh! Luckily thereare also a lot of nice ones :)

hes sounds like a knob hope dds on the mend

I can't think why he's your ex??

I hope DD starts improving very soon!!

To think you let a charmer like that go.

What a knob, someone needs to grow up but it isn't you OP

I hope your DD is feeling better soon.