Absolutely on my knees

[chezziejo]

Hi

My ds is 21 months and he's lovely generally but he keeps having phases of whining and whinging. It's not crying there's no tears. I realise it's pardonable frustration as his speech is pretty poor. He knows what things are tho and if he wants something like a drink he will fetch his cup and give it to me usually, but at the moment he makes this horrible whining noise. It's dropped off in the day a little at the moment but at might its awful. I've two hours sleep a night for the last two weeks and I'm getting ratty now and sharply told him to shut it last night at 2am. I'm not proud of myself for that either. Dp is currently unwell having just had pneumonia and now it looks like its flaring up again, plus employment issues. He's departed down south this morning for a funeral on top of that, plus I've just discovered I'm pregnant and I'm terrified after a bad miscarriage last year and scared I can't cope with one never mind two. Someone please tell me this is a phase that they go through and it passes :-( I'm just really struggling to cope with it at the moment. I dread night times :-(

Thanks for reading and sorry for my own long whining post.

It's a phase. Everything's always worse when you haven't had enough sleep.

Is there someone who can watch him for you so you can sleep?

Not at the moment. I'm limping through to 9am tomorrow when es at nursery and I have a day off work. How awful does that sound. Thanks for replying tho.

It doesn't sound awful at all. It sounds human. Spend the day with CBeeBies on and on the sofa. One day won't kill him!

Theres nothing wrong with being cross and firm with your child. Decide what is reasonable behaviour that will ensure everyones sanity and insist on it. It'll pass, but be firm. Have a good day.

Cheers guys. It's not like he's naughty or anything. I sometimes wonder if he actually knows he's doing it. Prays quietly for this phase to pass and to the next challenge lol.

Both my kids were like this at about that age, my daughter was worse!! There's nothing to whine or whinge about but some kids just do it as a way of expressing or with my two it became a habit. As soon as you hear that noise it makes you tense and on top of no sleep is awful. I just stopped it and was firm "stop that noise" because it was just a noise to alert me to them or a whimsy need, I'd tell them to just tell me without the whinging. Try your son to communicate differently which may be painful for you but he may develop his vocabulary better. I told them if you want something just say "mum" and we'll figure it out. Trust me the whinging and whining got to my very very last nerve. Patience is a virtue.........

i think having 2 hours sleep a night for two weeks is definitely a phase - that's terrible and no wonder you feel like you do - everything looks so different after a good stretch of sleep.. so don't worry that will change.

i really like the saying 'it's 99% about the journey' as it helps me keep perspective...i have a 24 month old and a 12 month old. i find i have to keep a sense of humour about things, when the 24 month old whinges i try to eitell him 'not like that...you say 'i want drink please' ie: make sure you tell him what he should say and don't just tell him off for whinging. i definitely lose it every now and again and yell..then i have to spend ages explaining to him that naughty mummy shouldn't yell plus i feel guilty so i think i've worked out it's not worth my while yelling. i think everyone of us loses our temper like this - you'd have to be a saint not to. you're pregnant which made me more tempermental/emotional as you're tired etc. so yes it is a phase, the whole thing seems to be an ever changing phase that we have to adjust to all the time...i am knackered by the way trying to find out if there is anyone else in my 'boat' with the age difference to chat to!!!! don't worry about it having two is knackering but you will work it out...nobody can tell you how, i just had to feel my way through it - thinking about it beforehand is 20 times worse than actually doing it as you simply can't imagine without having 2 what it's like so you just tie yourself up in knots thinking about it. my big bit of advice - make sure you have the eldest down for a nursery asap!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks guys. He's been sleeping better at. iChat thankfully. It he's poorly now. Spiking temps mainly, curse these viruses that keep

Plaguing us. Damn pressed send on iPhone by mistake. Dp still sleep

This bloody phone lol. Dp sleep

Ing on sofa as coughing so much. Mind had to giggle at ds earlier once his calpol kicked in he kept throwing his shape ball at the dog. I confiscated after two warnings but I still have this vision of a dopey spaniel sitting there with a toy bouncing off his head three times in a row with that look that only a spaniel can do. Oh well here we go again look and never move. Made me giggle anyway. Ah well back to praying his temp stays down and a full nights kip :o

iChat ?? At night.

Mutters obscenities about phones and technology.