DD1 can be a delight to be with but she can also be Miss Attitide I'm sure along with many other 9 year old girls but DH isn't dealing with it very well and is taking everything she does/says extremely personally. I now feel it's goes to the point where she continually irritates him, says/does one thing "wrong" and he is cross/angry/upset.
She can be a pain, and one of the most irritating things she does is storms off mid conversation. I usually let her go for a couple of minutes and then go and find her and talk through what just happened, how storming off is rude, not want we want her to do, would rather talk through the issue but DH can't see beyond this.
DD now feels DH is on her case ALL of the time and he doesn't like her and DH is saying that she is no longer a pleasure to be around 
and that he does so much for her but she's ungrateful.
I can why they are both feeling the way they do but I'm not sure how to bring them back together. I think DH shows his love in what he does for DD while sometimes DD just wants to sit and chat with her dad and I'm not sure he knows how.
Not sure if this is making sense. He's a great dad he really is. Very hands on I think he's just struggling with a little girl that's growing up.