Watching my son in a school match

[Lucy2013]

Hi, This is my first time to post here and I am hoping that someone can help me. I divorced 5 years ago and my ex has the boys every other weekend. Our son recently joined a new school and has been picked to represent the school in football and hockey. I have turned up on a couple of occasions on what has been my ex's weekends to watch our son represent the school. The first time he sent lots of texts telling me that it was not to happen again. I spoke to the Headmaster who said he would encourage all parents to support their children. This weekend I turned up for half of the hockey match (my son asked me to watch). I have had lots of texts and emails from the ex and he now says that he will take out a restraining order against me.
Is he able to do this?
All I want is to be able to watch my little boy play for the school. I do not stand near the ex, talk to him and I leave as soon as it has finished. I have worked out the calendar and this would only probably happen about 4 times a year. Am I being unreasonable? Can he really get a restraining order?

Thank you.

Lucy x

On what grounds would he take out an order?
He sounds vile. If you are being harassed by his texts, etc then you need to report him.

YANBU. Can't see any grounds for a restraining order either - unless of course you are running naked around the pitch whilst supporting your son!

Your ex-h appears to be a tosser, but I am guessing you know that as he is your ex.

Well done to your DS on playing for the school!

I honestly don't think your ex has any rights over which hockey pitch you wish to stand beside at the weekends.

Thank you all for your messages. And no Goosey I am not streaking on the pitch - then I could understand the Order! ;)
Maryz, you mentioned would I mind him coming on my weekends - absolutely not! I email him with parents eve, son's first day at new school, sports day etc.... and ask him to attend. It is the typical 'if you are going, then no thanks'. My ex also runs a local football team of which our son plays for. For the past 4 years he has taken our son on 'my' weekends to the football matches. I really don't think I am being unreasonable at all but just want to watch him represent the school which is what our son wishes for. He is very controlling and this is just another attempt to have me back in Court which is what he is threatening and will then go for joint custody (his words). I just wanted to be clear as to where I stood on the grounds of attending a match on his weekend and his threat of the restraining order.

Flight back OP! You have every right in the world to watch your son playing sport.
My sister is also divorced, for the sake of the children, ex and my sis made the conscious decision of leaving their rifts to one side when it comes to the girls. They both go to all the school shows/matches/whatever, are civilised to each other, there is no problem at all.
Your ex is our of order. I have no idea what legal right your ex has but I hope you can find some professional to support you and guide you.

Good grief. Tell him to grow up.

Several of the DDs friends parents are separated/divorced. I've often spotted both at school plays and concerts.

Your ex is being a knob.

Every weekend he might consider intrusive, but a few times a year. He's being stupid!

When me and my ex split up she booked him into swimming lessons, football training and boxing all on.days that I don't have him even tho I said I would lke to take take him him to something, now I have him at the weekends and even tho I asked to go and watch him box with her and swim and she told me in no uncertain terms that I shouldn't go neat on the days she has him she now wants to come and watch him play football at the weekend, the one and only thing we do together, she also wants to bring her dad who took great delight in slandering me over social media and taking great pride it making me and my son homeless when he was 4, literally had to stay in hotel with him for 6 months and they didn't care one bit they gloated that I was in the position I was, I was homeless because we lived in a house her mum bought her so they kicked me out, I truly believe my ex narcissist and she hates being told no, but come one 30 minutes on a Saturday to watch him play football when she takes him to literally everything else and refuses me to go isn't much ask, all my love and light