6yr old

[amdowntoearth]

My six year old son has been playing with a girl in his class for a while.Am not really friends With her mum but we do talk abt general things when we meet.The other day they were playing and my son kissed her on the lips.I told him not to kiss on the lips but cheeks.the mum didn't say a word. this Friday we met at the school gate and my son hugged her,I could see her mum wasn't happy(I don't know where he learnt that from or if he knows what he was doing) so I said I don't think they should be playing together incase he offends her.Told my son not to hug or kiss friends but I don't know if he was just been friendly or knew what he was doing.Am I a bad parent if my 6yr old behaves like that?

Sounds pretty normal to me - we used to play kiss chase at that age too

No you are not a bad parent.

I think you do have to explain to your son that not everyone likes hugs and kisses. Bit OTT reaction isn't it say they shouldn't play together? Surely a slight adjustment in behaviour and all will be well?

The reason why I said they shouldn't play was her mums reactions and she said is the kiss thing you need to talk to him.She heard me telling him not to do it so why did she mentioned it again.?my son was gutted when I told him not to play with her .She made it looked like Im bad Parent.

It's hardly sexual molestation at age 6 is it - lots of children show affection for their friends - girls go round holding hands etc. I think the problem is in the minds of the adults!

Though how you square that with this other mother I don't know. It seems mean to stop him having a good friend cos he is too nice! What a funny message to give him. He then starts having to think what he has done wrong - draws odd conclusions about physical displays of affection.

It is bad enough a grown man can't ask a crying lost child where its mummy is and try to help, without fingers of P'phile being pointed, without extending that to small children!

Oh dear.

Suppose you will just have to tell him the girls mummy doesn't like it and ask him not to.

she didnt object to the idea and i dont want to offend her.she also told her daughter not to play with him.ive asked him to make new friends but not to hug or kiss (grin)

Poor kids - losing a friend for something which was innocent but has been made dirty. I feel sorry for them both and hope they have plenty of other friends.

I agree with pancake a middle ground could have done the job for peace of mind if necessary. Oh well.