How to deal with DC3 and what to do with her??!!!

[Littlemissnegative]

Firstly does anyone have any ideas on what to do with DC3 (23 months) when we're at home? Apart from reading stories, singing songs, playing with toys, etc? She's rather demanding at the moment and it's becoming quite difficult for me to do housework when she's awake! I do play with her but for some reason she constantly wants my attention at the minute and I'm running out of things to occupy her with!
Secondly she is having lots of tantrums and is lashing out a lot at me and DS and DD1, she is also aggressive with other children over toys, etc. She seems a lot worse than the other two were and I'd appreciate it if anyone can recommend a book on how to deal with this behaviour in a way that won't crush her spirit!!! I love that she's so spirited but it can ve rather challenging!

Sounds like she may be frustrated? How are her communication skills - can she tell you what she wants verbally or she having to rely on throwing things she doesn't want
Can you get her to 'help' with household tasks - have her own hoover/broom etc whilst you are cleaning, get her to match socks etc when sorting washing.
Mine got quite into 'art' at that age, I I could strap them in the highchair with paper and crayons for a bit while I got on with stuff.
Do you have any activities outside the house for her (rather than tagging along with older siblings - I know what it's like!!)
They're not called the terrible twos for nothing Hope it gets better soon.

Tbh I used to chuck interesting stuff at DD (like paints and paper or some pasta and pots so she could 'cook' etc) and sort of ignore her if I had things to do (or wanted to drink a cup of tea in peace). She very quickly got the idea that playing on her own is fun as well.