Tell me honestly, will DD2's teacher think i am a towering nobber if i speak to him about this subject...

[AitchTwoOhOneTwo]

6 year olds... this whole last term has been 'Mum, x is my number one best friend and y is number two and z is number three...'

so i said to her 'this WILL end in tears and the reason that i KNOW it will end in tears is that i too was a 6 year old girl and it always, always does' and advised her just to play with everyone so no-one's feelings got hurt.

and now, guess what, absolute sobbing as she has been demoted from number one to three with the girl who is her number one (you are keeping up, aren't yo? ) and 'I HAVEN'T CHANGED AT ALL, MUM, SO WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?'

farking hell.

should i say something to the teacher? not about dd herself, because there is no way on earth it's only dd at home crying. would it be ridiculous for me to suggest they do a 'circle time' or something about not rating their friends like bleeding top trumps and just being NICE? or am i living in parenting la-la land?

this isn't really a bad patch for dd, it's just not very nice behaviour, i think. from any of them.

Teacher here and I would want to know if this was happening with the girls in my Y1/2 class. It should be easily sorted out by the teacher IME. Friendship issues are in the teacher's remit in my opinion.

oh that's comforting. i don't think i'd even be mentioning specific people, tbh, this is just jockeying for position from all of them, the little idiots. i'm sure they've all been upset by it at some point.

Actually, if the teacher is not aware, you will be doing him a favour by giving him the head up - because if something more does develop, it will also impact their schooltime, as they're not going to restrict to hours outside 9-3, are they?

Forewarned is forearmed...

well the revolution didn't go that well, and the best friend system lives another day but no-one was harmed in the event and dd says that in response to her dire warnings of misery and hurt there were general confessions apparently that many of their mums had also been telling them that this sort of thing isn't particularly kind.

good news is that i spoke to the teacher who was all ears, said that he was unaware of the ranking but aware that they are all getting on each others' nerves because they are desperate for easter hols. next week they are having a class show thing for school assembly which is all about being kind to friends so this works in perfectly. so, i'm pleased i said something, thanks for the advice, all.

great news, Aitch.

(I would love to see him turn the ranking thing into a numeracy exercise, though - that would put them off [evil grin])

Great news Aitch :) It sounds like DD made quite an impact on her own, what a clever wee thing.

lol, i'm not sure she made any impact as such. they said they'd been told not to do it by their mums but apparently they were still determined. i think it will be fine, though.