motivational/mental kick up the a@# needed

[Rooo12478]

bit of a moan coming up sorry in advanced... I have just taken 6 months approved temporary withdrawl from my final year at Uni due to medical bits n bobs ... motivation was dwindling as it was but am now feeling like jacking it all in and feel quite alone. Those "friends" that i've supported throughout the last 3 years seem to have disappeared or only get in contact when they need help. I am really worried about going back to my placement it was cut short before christmas. The one person i did go to has now moved and i dont like to bother her as she has her own stuff going on that tends to become the focus of any conversation we have.

Really I dont want to show my kids that i am a quitter either... i cant recall the last time i have seen something thru to the end.

Any tips on how to remain focused and not procrastinating? (imaginary) housework has become too big a distraction

I have until Sept to get my ass in gear and to start a 10k word dissertation.. the summer is going to be a long brassic one :(

on a lighter note, this sight is a saviour already!

Hi Rooo. Sorry bout your medical bits and bobs and lack of motivation. Do you like what you are studying at uni? Do you see it as something you would want to/be likely to find employment in? If you do/did enjoy it, then maybe setting yourself attainable targets with a date to achieve them by (and a little treat when youve done them), might help. Maybe if you try make yourself do something, ie read something relevant or whatever, you might find you can get back into the loop again. When you really get out of something it can seem almost impossible to kick start it again but once you take that first step, sometimes it starts to get easier. Sometimes also, the thought of re starting something can be worse than actually doing it. You can start to be scared of picking up the threads again i think. Like when you had to go back to school after the summer holidays - you cant actually imagine doing it and it feels scary and un-do-able.

If you like what you are studying then I bet you will feel really good finishing the course. If you really dont like it or feel it might not be useful etc, maybe you could discuss it with the uni? As for all the friends who only get in touch when they want to dump - I reckon youre better off without them. Hopefully you will soon come across people who are able to treat friendship as a 2 way street.
I work from home and have to FORCE myself to stay on task. I make myself a timetable with frequent breaks, a walk, lunch etc. I dont wait for inspiration or motivation because they arent things that I feel often. In my case I just treat the work almost like medicine - a necessary evil, with a goal (paycheck) at the end! Having a good moan on here is helpful and you do come across so many people who do care. Hugs

Thanks ... thats definately a huge plate of food for thought - I appreciate it x