Do you think it is acceptable to swear around your children?

[RobinSparkles]

Just wanted to know people's view on this as I swear around my children often as I can't help it.

Depends on what words - sometimes say bloody, would never say fuck or c**t.

It's usually all the f's I'm afraid.

I would suggest a crash course in Enid Blyton.

I need to stop swearing in front of my DD or her 1st words will be FFS!!

I don't care what you say around your kids.
I do care if I'm visiting someone & they or their kids freely swear because I don't like to hear it & I don't want my kids to hear it & I don't want my kids to become desensitised to it & think that's fine to say any time & anywhere & around anyone.

So I guess that the problem is that all of your Fs don't just stay in your family, they will spill over in the company of other people.

I don't, because like most people, I can't stand hearing children swear (or even say words like 'stupid' or 'idiot'!)

However, on the odd occasion - usually when I have really hurt myself - a few unsuitable words might have slipped out

Erm....

DH is generally pretty sweary. I only say proper rude words in Times of Stress.

That is not say it is really acceptable, more that it is inevitable in our house .

I occasionally say bloody hell and the odd oh shit may have popped out but that's as far as it goes.. Never the f word...

I am very sweary, not at them obv, but in general.

Children however, are to date, verbally pure!

Idiot, stupid, shut up - all banned in this house.

I'm the same, have always been a 'sweary' kind of person and brought up in a household that said bloody/fart/bollocks etc not the f's or the c word.

I do use FFS a lot so ditto peekabooooo I swear (s'cuse pun) ffs will be my dd's first words..

We have friends with a now 17 and 12 year old and we've known them years. Dad has always sworn (quite bad language too) and it's part of their language but I've never heard the 12 year old utter so much as bloody. He knows it's their thing and not common or the norm in other households. And the swearing is in a jovial type of way, not directly at someone. Not sure if that makes a difference.

I suppose I'd respect other friends views on swearing around children, so if they didn't like it I'd refrain from swearing in front of them and do it under my breath instead

I could give up swearing for lent

No, I don't think it is right personally.
I don't swear at work in front of the children I work with there and so wouldn't swear in front of my own child either.

No I don't think it's right, at all. What does it really teach your children?
If you were to swear infront of my kids, you would get earful

My husband is always on at me and thinks it is completely childish. He says how can you teach your children discipline and good manners if I can't even control myself.

No I fucking don't.

Hmmm, I do try and make an effort around DS but if he doesn't hear it from me, he'll hear it from someone else.

As they get a bit older, will you think it's acceptable for your children to swear around you? If you don't want them to, then the less you swear the better chance you'll have of keeping them from doing it. They'll hear the words somewhere, and tey'll use them sooner or later. But if you want to be able to tell them not to, then it's a lot more convincing if they haven't heard you swearing like a trooper all their lives

No.
Never.
Hate hate hate it.

Both my parents swore in front of us without holding back. I remember vividly not bringing friends home ever because of the embarrasment.

It's not madly advisable, but sometimes inevitable.

Im a bit of a trooper but i am controlling my gob by replacing swears with less explicit words eg. Bloomin and flippin.Try it it works.

However i also do other things that i wouldnt expect my dc to do as they are children.

I often say 'Jeff'' very loudly.

or 'i can't be jeffed', or 'What the Jeffing Jeff?' or 'Jeff it!' or indeed 'Holy Mother of Jeff!'

so far DD1 is yet to copy me.

My mum would swear in front of me when I grew up (never at me, mind you). So I picked it up from her and then if I swore she'd tell me off.. which made me a bit at the time

I personally try not to swear in front of DS. He's only 9 months old but I guess especially when he'll be a bit older and be picking up loads of words it will be important. I think there are different levels though. At the end of the day, your DCs will pick up what you say, so if there are words you don't want them to use, you'll have to consciously make the effort not to use them yourself.