Moving 3yr old and 1yr old ds's into same room

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Any tips? Ds1 is so jealous of ds2, I want to make the transition as attractive as possible.
They will be moving into a larger room, and am trying to hold off til ds2 sleeps as reliably as possible.

My older 2 shared from similar ages

DD1 a heavy sleeper so that helped - wasn't ever disturbed by DD2 bellowing

They have always got on though - in what way is DS1 jealous? I suppose i might be a bit wary that he'd launch himself into attack mode or something and set up camp in DS2's cot...

Why are you moving them into the same room?

I moved my older 2 together at that age (but an older 1, not like a 12 months baby) thought it might be difficult with them disturbing each other, keep each other awake etc but went a lot smoother than expected. So you never know it might just go fine! Don't really have tips apart from mention it positively to the 3 yr old so he thinks its like a treat or a great thing to be allowed to share with his brother. If they are going in a new room then decorate it with characters he likes or something so ds1 could focus more on that aspect of it than on the sharing aspect, if that's something he would be more enthusiastic about?

Mainly moving them in together because ds2's room is over a garage and v cold. Our heating bills are ridiculous. Plus I would like them to share and I'd like a spare room.
Ds1's jealousy is just garden variety sibling rivalry, not homicidal. I just don't want him to be a pita about moving, end he has recently been showing some threenager tendencies.

I moved my DDs in together when DD2 was 11 months and DD1 almost 3. I didn't do anything really - just told DD1 what was happening in advance, but didn't try to dress it up as fun or colour it in any way, matter of fact - next week this is what is happening. DD1 was also v jealous of DD2. Actually we found it worked really well. DD2 was much happier (she never much liked being on her own and so dropped off to sleep much more easily once sharing with her sister). Mornings became much happier too as they would actually play together - DD1 would drop toys into the cot and I would find them giggling and bouncing around, they never (or rarely) called for me or cried. DD2 went through a stage of waking in the night a few months later (having previously been reliably sleeping through), but it never bothered DD1 - after an initial adjustment period I think siblings will rarely stir for noises made by the other - they seem to have a fantastic ability to block it out. I think that at this age small children really prefer being together rather than on their own. With my girls I'd say it sort of helped their relationship a bit too - having time on their own together without parental interference (i.e. pre falling asleep and on waking) seemed to be good for them, DD1 seemed to find a point to dd2 and enjoyed entertaining her etc.

So I would say just do it. Be firm and get on with it without worrying or vacillating (or trying too hard to engage your DS1's enthusiasm) and they will adjust.

Thanks nelly, exactly what I wanted to hear!

we did it at a similar age.

DS1 was v jealous of ds2.

we made out like it was the most exciting thing that could possibly happen, and how lucky they both were.

They loved it. now 4 years on we've added dd in there too and it is great, they talk at night about all sorts, definately made them a lot closer.

we mentionned that when DSS moves out in a couple of years that one of them could have their own room, they were most upset at the thought and decided that perhaps me or dh should have it (not too bad an idea I thought...!)

we did it at a similar age and at 6.7 and 4.9 they are still doing it and still loving it!

I'm a bit of a worrier - I'd worry that at those ages DC2 would be giving DC1 things they could choke on or 'extra' blankets on their head or climbing in with them and suffocating them... I'd not get a moments sleep!

I will be approaching this subject soon with both of my DSs (4.10y and 19mo). Would like them to ideally be in the same room together (there are bunkbeds in DS1's room). Waiting on DS2 outgrowing his cot and then he'll get moved in with DS1. Main reason is to have a spare bedroom for friends/relatives staying over from time to time. Hoping they'll get along nicely. Good to hear success stories!:)

I want to move my dds into the same room. They are 4.2 and 2.6. What would be better , bunk beds or individual beds ?

this is what i want

return- depends how big your room is, i'd have tyhought. ideally sep beds imo.

We moved ours in together when they were a little younger, so ds was 8 months and dd 2y 4 months. I was really worried because the 8 month old wasn't sleeping through the night. But it was absolutely fine. My DD got her first big girl bed at the same time, and it was a much bigger room, and she had a little toy box in there, and we took them out for the day whilst we set it all up, so they came home for the grand opening (so to speak!), and she loved it. She was so excited about everything being new (her bed, the rug, the room), and we had been building it up so that she was excited about sleeping in the same room as her brother, telling her how exciting it would be and how excited we were. And, for what ever reason, it was absolutely fine. She accepted it with no problem at all.

Hope it all goes well.