I don't feel a lot of love for anyone :(

[MsNoLove]

I have a lovely husband and children, and live a very easy life compared to a lot of people. I do a little work for myself, at home, around the family schedule and have some good friends.
But I don't feel love for my family very often at all. Sometimes I get a surge of feeling for one of them, but it doesn't last long, maybe a minute. I have all the other emotions; it's just love that is missing.
I know I do love them, and I want to be a good mother, wife, friend to people but feel numb where I know I should feel something.
I'm not depressed, I've been depressed before and this isn't the same.
I know I used to feel love for DH when I met him and I certainly loved the children when they were smaller, but now I feel just worn out.
Has anyone else felt the same? Did the love come back eventually? Or is this how I will feel for the rest of my life?

I know you say that you are not depressed but the fact you are asking this question shows that you know something is not right. I don't believe that you don't feel love for your family - it sounds like you are emotionally pulling up the draw bridge to conserve emotional energy for yourself as you hit a low patch and this leaves you with little to give out to others - you a st interpreting this as not loving or feeling emotion. Did you have professional support last time? Can you go back and ask for support again? Has something specific triggered this off or has it crept up on you?

If you know you love them, then you are feeling love. I think there's a big media/movie myth around love that it has to be big and expressive to be real. But not all of us feel the need to constantly gush, hug and have tears in the eyes & surges of emotion in order to love and be loved. In fact, I think that would be an exhausting way to live. Sometimes love can be very modest and unspoken. Actions rather than words.

If you're feeling 'worn out', see if there's anything you can do to increase your energy levels and feel more refreshed. Whether it's better nutrition, more fresh air, exercise, better quality sleep, a holiday or some fun event to look forward to... these can all help. Also, you could consider that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'.... time away from your children or family can make you appreciate each other more when you're back together.

I dont know how to help you but I just wanted to say I can empathise. Only my DS2 brings out the 'love' in me - and I guess thats because hes adorable, and a very lovable (cuddly, affectionate and kind) child - he's 2 and that helps as well!
DS1 - well I know that I must love him, but I dont 'feel' the love. He's more hard work, has never been affectionate, and whilst there were moments when he was a toddler I 'felt' things, now I accept that I'm just not emotional towards him in the same way as the little one. The best I can do is a bit of rough and tumble and tickling as he likes that (he doesnt like 'cuddles') and to try and give him equal attention.
As others have said, it must be exhausting to be 'loving' all the time. I think everyday life gets in the way. The fact that it happens to you occasionally - a surge of feeling - thats love isnt it?
Imagine not having them/having them taken from you. How would you feel then? However I feel in normal life, for instance I dont miss DS1 if I'm away from him, but then I'm not away from him more than a day. And I know where he is, and that he's safe and happy. But what if he was taken away in any sense. I imagine that and it brings tears to my eyes. I couldnt bear to be without him. Thats love surely? Even if it doesnt manifest itself as feeling 'something' every day.
Sorry, waffling. I'm trying to articulate something not terribly well. You may be depressed I dont know and have no experience of that. I do know how 'numb' feels though. And worn out. Hugs.