big age gap

[CharliesMummyMeg]

does antone have a big age gap between there dc1 and dc2? we have a 9mo boy and are thinking about having a big ish age gap...big ish being 6+ years??
how did it work out for you?

We should have had a nearly exactly 6 year gap between DS1 and DS2 as DS2 was due 3 weeks before DS1's birthday however he was very impatient and decided to arrive 2 months premature as I got pre-eclampsia! So my 2 are nearly 6 years apart and I can honestly say that it's been fantastic.

Ds1 absolutely adores DS2 and vice versa....he was the first person he smiled at and the first person he waved to. To see the look of absolute delight on his face when we go to meet him out of school is so lovely.

DS2 is only 14 months at the moment so they can't exactly play much together but they really do get on very well.

Ive enjoyed it as well as I get to have time alone with DS2 when the bigger one is at school.

I was worried that he's be jealous of this little person invading our lives cause he'd been an only child for 6 years but apart from a few odd moans he's been fantastic.

Thanks for your reply. Did you feel that when you were pregnant with dc2 you felt like you were doing it all again for the first time almost as it was such a gap?

Yes to a certain extent but I worked part time in Mothercare ever since I had DS1 so I was quite aware of baby stuff if that makes sense so nothing was too much of a shock. I knew what to get and what not to get and I was much more relaxed about the whole thing than I was the first time around.

Not sure if thats because Ive had a biggish gap or just because it's the second one! All my friends had babies very close together so they thought I was completely crazy doing it this way round but Im really happy we waited. I had PND after DS1 and I needed to get myself sorted first and I wanted to wait until DS1 was at school which was pretty much what we did.

thanks for your reply
I want my dc2 to sort of feel like a first pregnancy and labour again does that make sense?
I like big gaps, im only 19 so dont want too many kids before im 24 haha

we have an 11 yr age gap because of fertility problems

pros: much more laid back
firstborn fantastic at helping and entertaining
unique and lovely realtionship between them
each child gets the attention of an only but have a sibling
younger sibling very relaxed about older kids /teens etc.
babysitting an help with school runs
no real sibling rivalry

cons: family days out are difficult as both want diff things
lack of peer age playmate , but friends sort that one out
holidays are difficult as have to please two age groups

ggirl did you find your dc2 was almost like being pregnant and having a baby for the first time again?

We have a seven year age gap. Ds adores his little sister and his little sister adores her.

and was your second almost like having your first because you kind of forgot what it was like

yes i did
it was very exciting for all in the family cos it was so long awaited

I loved being pregnant with both as never had any sickness etc.

:) thanks for you reply i want to kind of forget what its like before we have another