Help, toilet training nightmare ongoing!

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I'm new here so I''ll just tell it like it is. My DS is 3.2 and I have been staying in each afternoon to start to toilet train him this half term but I'm going nuts.

I've been putting him in his special little robot pants every afternoon, proffering chocolate buttons and octonaut stickers, and mopping up wee and poo. At first he would sit on the toilet (with a little seat) for stories and choc but he never actually weed and now stubbornly won't go near it and all I can get out of him is "I don't like it". He has always refused point blank to sit on a potty.

I still have him in nappies at night and wakes at 5:30 so I change him in the dark and he stays in the nappies till he's had his morning poo and I have had breakfast. I have also put a nappy on for outings in the morning. I should probably stop except for the night? It is only wednesday of the first week but I have got nowhere and want to despair.

He seems to treat the pants and trousers like a nappy and tells me after he is wet. He knows perfectly well where his wees and poos should go and promises me he will but then he holds it in for hours but refuses to come to the potty. I know if I forced him it would start a tantrum. At first he would sit for stories stickers and choc now and again but he never once weed in there. Yesterday he stubbornly won't go near the toilet and all I can get out of him is "I don't like it".

Any advice or help would be welcom as I am so tired and fed up of it and have a carpeted house

It doesn't sound as though he's ready yet. He needs to learn what the feeling is before he starts. I'd start again to be honest, ditch the rewards though as you're doing yourself no favours.

Don't use a nappies, he'll be confused. Ds didn't use a potty, he went straight to the toilet as he wanted to be a 'big boy.'

Oh, a lot of children have problems like this. He's not alone. A lot of them are worried because they see their poop as part of themselves. Have you asked the HV for advice?

He sounds like he is not ready. Put the potties away and try again in two months.

He's not ready. Stop, don't make a big deal of it, put him back in nappies and try again when he's keen. Otherwise it will become a huge battle

Thanks everyone, sometimes you just need someone to agree you can give in.

Give him some time and start again. Ditch the nappies though, he'll be thinking that it's OK to poop because this is what he does in a nappy.

he probably is ready, if he's 3.2, he just needs time to associate the feelings of needing to go and going to the loo, after all he has been using a nappy all his life. You need to ditch the nappies totally though apart from sleeps. I'd give it at least all this week.