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Most children do things/watch programmes etc.,that they actually can manage

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 17:41

Constant monitoring of activities/toys/programmes is largely unnecessary as most DC only choose to tackle things they can cope with.
DC 1 is 5 and likes watching films like 'The Blair Witch Project '
DC 3 is only 3 but really enjoys hammering nails into blocks of wood - he is really careful and has never hurt himself - we use really soft wood.

neither of the above are 'recommended' activities for kids of their age
Does anyone else follow their DC's lead like this ? what sort of things do your DC enjoy doing ?

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OhDearWormyGod · 13/02/2012 17:44

Erm, no.

lucidlady · 13/02/2012 17:49

5 years old? Blair witch project? Are you serious?

habbibu · 13/02/2012 17:51

I may live to regret this, but, how exactly did your 5 yo lead you to the Blair Witch Project?

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 17:52

OhDear - why not ? what don't you like about this approach

Lucid - it is scary but he loves it , nothing really bad in it for a 5 year old so probably why he likes it - the other two DSs aged 4 and 3 wander around room but don't watch it ...

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SilentBoob · 13/02/2012 17:52

My 3 yr old has a knife throwing act with his 5 yr old sister.

And my foetus smokes Gauloise.

toddlerama · 13/02/2012 17:52

This is a joke, right? Otherwise why not release them into the wild? They'll work out what they can manage and steer clear of anything damaging or dangerous...

habbibu · 13/02/2012 17:59

tbh, lorcana, I think you may have to come back when your children are in their fifties, and tell us how well they turned out. Then we'll know whether you were right or wrong.

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 18:04

The nursery they attend uses the 'real life' approach - like real china and glass and proper cutlery .... also do lots of outdoor child led activities like den building . Lots of people seem to like this - it's just an extension of that approach.

3 year old loves to cook his own fried egg - he knows not to touch the hot bits - we watch but try not to interfere. He can actually do it all on his own.

18 month DD loves digging in mud in garden ...is that also too dangerous ? its virtually all she's interested in at the moment and she spends ages doing it every day ..

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maybenow · 13/02/2012 18:07

hammering nails fine imo... watching innapropriate films not so fine because you can't know that something isn't going to disturb the child till after they've watched it and then they can't unwatch it.. it's too late.

hammering nails can be done safely, gently, carefully... watching horror movies is a shot in the dark really - you can't tell what will disturb somebody till they've seen it.

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Taken · 13/02/2012 18:29

You need to go to parenting classes. Blair witch - seriously!!

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 18:30

It IS subtle issi - you are right may be why he likes it ?

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OhDearWormyGod · 13/02/2012 18:32

Frying an egg?? Good luck explaining that to A & E when the inevitable happens

Sirzy · 13/02/2012 18:34

No way is the op for real!

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 18:37

Ohdear - nothing HAS happened with supervision and support , it is safer by far Sirzy than a car journey but do you disbelieve all posters who take their kids in cars ??

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 18:39

Habibu - he just found it in DVD pile and liked the front i guess - he asked me what it was about and I said 'it's real spooky ' - that did it he wanted to watch it !!

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Livergirl1981 · 13/02/2012 18:42

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 13/02/2012 18:44

Good grief.

Sirzy · 13/02/2012 18:45

Lol at the idea of a 3 year old cooking their own egg being safer than them going in a car!

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 18:48

Sirzy _ LOL all you want , it is .

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TwllBach · 13/02/2012 18:48

YY - you could leave Paranormal Activity around and let him see that. IMO, that's pretty much natural progression from Blair Witch.

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lorcana · 13/02/2012 18:49

Car travel is dangerous - I hardly ever take kids in car - cycle on cycle paths and walk is safer .

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BertieBotts · 13/02/2012 18:59

Yeah films not a great idea. There are age ratings for a reason and while I wouldn't judge a parent letting their 16/17 year old watch an 18, 5 is too young for anything other than a PG, really.

DS is 3 and is allowed to help cook, but I don't let him near the frying pan - too unpredictable with spitting fat etc.

Suspect this is a wind up though...

habbibu · 13/02/2012 19:51

Meh, mud, outdoors, china plates and cooking all ok, but hardly radical. But scary film quite possibly beyond what he's capable of processing, and it's kind of weird to want to watch something that basically shows people in distress and terrified. It's also a bit crap.

habbibu · 13/02/2012 19:53

What I mean is that it's pretty obvious if they can manage to cook, play outside in mud, etc, but you don't know that they can't really cope with what they're watching properly until possibly a good long while after they've watched it.

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