Is one of your children just like you are/were?

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And if so how does that affect how you feel about that child?

DS1 is sensitive and a worrier just like I was/am. I worry about him worrying.

Do you know how to help him worry less though?

Yes we do sit down and talk about it a lot. He has actually got better recently. He started High School and that was a huge issue but now that's better. I do think it is in his nature.

DS2 is easy going and very confident and I wish we could be like him.

hm, my daughter with the most problems is most like me (to look at and in her interests and aptitudes) and is the most difficult to reach :( but she is a vastly improved version of me in every way

somehow having a more difficult time than I ever did, I must be holding her back without meaning to?

Yes Dd is quite like me in many ways. I think it does make me understand what she does and why a bit easier. But this could all change as shes only two!

My DS is just like DH, that's what I like most about him! He's great at sport, maths and science, but loves history and engineering too.
My DD is just like me, which is great too. She's into books, dance, never gets ill, and makes friends easily.
DCs don't only get your hang ups, they also get all the things that are great about their parents

Yes! My DS1 is very like me-a sensitive, skinny fussy eater, daydreamer and constant talker/singer...

I stopped worrying (quite as much) about his food 'issues' when I realised how like me he is-I grew out of it, hopefully he will too.

I don't think I love him 'more' or 'less' for being like me (I couldn't possibly love him more), but I do see where he is coming from better, and make more allowances for his personality than I have to for DS2-admittedly he is still small, but has a far more easy-going nature.

Yes...ds1 shares a lot of my traits and looks just like me as well.

DS is so like I was as a child: he's an avid reader, likes has a close-knit group of friends, and can sit quietly and concentrate for ages.

DD is (apparently) just like her dad was when he was little: she's sporty and outgoing, but not very patient.

I love them both to bits, and despite being very different children they love each other too.

Is it easier to identify with your mini-me would you say? Do you go easy on them because it's easier to understand them?

DS2 finds reading and spelling difficult like I did. It makes me cry.

DS2 is exactly like me. Bookworm, geek, competitive but not at all sporty, organised yet ridiculously messy.

We do have more shared interests, yes, but I don't 'feel' differently about him because of that. I love my other two equally.

Yes, DD is almost identical, I hope to be a better mother to her than my mother was to me (more unerstanding) and hopefully she won't struggle like I did.

ALthough my mother is fab and is a great Grandmother.

Sons are exactly like Dh, even the way they sleep ! Dd is unfortunatly like me, its difficult.

No... although DD looks eerily like me, but personality so different.

My dad says that DS2 is a lot like him at that age, thank goodness, because my dad is very amiable & DS2 is a royal PITA.

Well my DS has managed to inherit two things from my DH and me. From me he has my frustration when I can't do things. This is bad because it's annoying for him, but good because at least I can empathise, unlike my parents did with me!

From my DH he has an inability to ask for help and a complete desire to do everything for himself. So added with my frustration when he can't do things, it makes for a furious child at times.

But we both understand.

He's only 17 months though so god knows what he'll be like later!

DD is very like me so far, hugely independent and stubborn.

It does help a bit because if I remind myself to step back and treat her how I would like to be treated we usually get on better and she seems happier. But it's also a pita because 2 stubborn mules together 24/7 was a recipe for disaster, we both need her time out at pre-school!

DD is 2.4 and, for the past year or so, so much she does reminds me of anecdotes I have heard my parents, aunts etc saying about what I did as a toddler. Her behaviour isn't unusual or exceptional for a child of her age but it does make me go "aaaaaaaaaaaagh...that's what you were talking about".
I'm now expecting a DS and there will be the same age gap between DD and DS as there is between me and my DB and I am concerned that DD will be the "responsible, sensible, older child who gets into trouble if they forget a birthday/to call home twice a week/etc" (as I am) whereas DS will be the "carefee, spirited one who gets away without any family responsibility" (like my brother). Its mainly up to DP & I as parents if they end up in these roles and, if they do - and they may as, DD is, to the extent a 2.4 yro can be, sensible - not to rely on DD for all of the family stuff.