What's with the "weight" issue??

[TaylorSwift13Fan]

When I was little I was called fat and I never was, I was actually a healthy size. But my daughter just yesterday said "mummy, am I to big?" and she is only 4 (bless her) She is a perfectly normal size for her age. But, I am asking you, Why are teens and children so obsessed with how they look and how big they are?

It sounds to me it's causing more bother than it's worth.
Has your LO ever came up to you and said something like that?
It kinda upset me as she has only started school in September and already she is overhearing older children talking about this and such

'Fat' is just another perjorative term that they learn, same as any other. I've had to tell my DS off - very young at the time - for scornfully referring to something as 'gay', for example. I don't think the infant-school children he heard it from were obsessed with sexual orientation any more than the children calling your daughter fat are obsessed with body-shape. I think they've heard a grown-up use it as a way of putting someone down and copy that behaviour without thinking

Older children and teens are more interested in body-shape. The best way to combat it is to make sure your DD is confident in herself as she grows up.

She's going to compare herself to other children and if she is larger than they are will think she's fat. Nobody wants to be fat, it is a sign that you gorge on junk and don't exercise, very unhealthy.

My DD is always on the move, she never stops and always eats healthy food, and has one 'treat' meal a week, so she is as healthy as she can be. She maybe overheard me talking to my husband about 'baby weight' and trying to remove that or heard someone else in my family talking about it. I always say she is gorgeous and a little pretty princess.

tbh, I think if you are always complimenting her on her looks (beautiful/pretty) constantly, you're almost perpetuating that cycle yourself, iyswim?

Try to compliment her on amny, many things as well as her physical appearance - effort, happiness, kindness, caring and so on.

To just deflect from a great engagement with her on just her appearance.

ChaosTrulyReigns71 Yes, I do, I always praise her for her effort, I say she is smart, helpful, caring and kind mostly always. I would never want her to be appearance crazy :)