Hi, I'm new to the site so hope I've picked the right part to post this on, just need some advice really.
My dp and I are both mature students, (he is PT postgrad, and I am FT undergrad both due to graduate in May), we both work PT-FT jobs too and are very steady. We were engaged last year, and took the decision to come off the pill in Spring this year (hence joining this site).
HOWEVER, this week we found out that his funding will not be available for him to carry on his study next year. Realistically, he has the option to go FT at work and while losing his funding will mean losing about £3000 we were expecting, this will be more than covered by his changing to FT hours (sorry for the essay, it's just important to me that it's clear we are steady money-wise, I would never plan a baby if we weren't)
My problem is that we both have quite sniffy families, someone or other always seem to have an issue with the choices we make for ourselves and feels they have to stick their noses in, eg, several people commented on us getting engaged before owning our own house. This is normally something we raise our eyebrows at but doesn't cause too many problems as we trust each other's judgement. I am now worried that if we carry on as planned and TTC, we will be the target for more sniffing and finger pointing. I realise this sounds a bit pathetic but I really don't want that sort of atmosphere around the experience of having our first child. It's a decision we didn't make lightly, and something we both are really excited about.
My gut feeling is that there is never a "perfect time" to have your first baby, but do I wait it out another year or just put up with any sniffiness.
I realise as I write this that I've already made my mind up really, but would like other people's views on it!
TIA