Going out and using the toilet or potty.

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My DD1 is doing really well with toilet training at home. Nearly 4 months dry during the day. She preferred to use the toilet from day one. My problem is that she refuses to use the toilet or potty anywhere other than at home. I put her pink toilet seat on wherever we go but she refuses point blank to use it. I've just got her to use the potty at Grandma's but won't use it elsewhere. Has anyone else had this or is my DD unique in her little ways? How did you get round it? I apologise if this makes no sense but I'm having one of those days.

Hi MM
How old is your DD? Have you tried asking her why she doesn't like going to the toilet anywhere other than home? Do you have any inkling yourself?
Also, does this mean you don't go out much? Or does she has enough control to save it till she gets home?
Sorry to ask so many questions! And if it's any consolation, at least you're not like me with little boys whose idea of heaven is to 'water' every tree trunk in the park!

Don't worry about all the questions, its things I should have mentioned anyway. She is 2.7 years. I have tried asking her but she just says she prefers to wear a nappy when she's out. We didn't used to go out much because I couldn't drive. Now I can I can go to more places like round to my mums, playgroups etc! She can hold for a while but not long enough if we do have to go out for some time.
With regards to an inkling why, the only thing I can think of is that her Grandma got annoyed when she tried to climb on the toilet at her house. I've always let her climb up as she is so independant and strong willed! Perhaps this has worried her that she'll get shouted at elsewhere aswell? As I said though she is doing so well at home and as we can go out more now I don't really want to put her in nappies for when we are out.

why not wait for the warmer weather. tell her you are not buying anymore nappies (swap to pull ups for night) and bite the bullet. she will either have to go or wet herself.....

That's an idea I have thought about actually cece. Thinking about it whilst writing all this down earlier I think that may be the answer in the end. She did well at Grandma's today so maybe a turn for the better.

My middle son is strong-willed, too - and, if it helps, we cracked the potty-training with him when we stopped suggesting it was time to 'go' and told him we knew he was clever enough to decide for himself. Before that, he just used to say 'NO!' every time we asked if he needed a wee. I think the very independent ones like feeling in control!