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DS won't poo in the potty

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ojsmum · 22/01/2006 19:23

Any help?? He will go for a wee in the potty but not a poo and when you ask him if he needs a poo he says no but will then do it in his nappy.

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WigWamBam · 22/01/2006 19:37

Having had well over a year of this with my dd, my only advice really would be to relax, and let him have his nappy. Dd got to the stage where she would scream and cry hysterically if we even suggested she poo in the toilet, and it was obviously upsetting her so much that we let it go until she was ready. Eventually she decided for herself that it was a good idea.

People told me to just relax and ignore it and I thought they were talking absolute tosh, so I know you'll think I'm talking absolute tosh too, but you'll give yourself (and him) far less stress if you can relax and ignore it. Training for wees and poos are two completely separate issues, and if he's not ready to use the potty yet, my advice would be not to force it.

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ojsmum · 22/01/2006 19:39

He is also starting nursery, any ideas on how to ask them to continue what we have been doing?

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WigWamBam · 22/01/2006 19:44

How old is he? And are the nursery happy to change nappies? I'd see if they would reinforce whatever it is you chose to do - if you decide to let him have a nappy for a poo, ask them to give him a nappy for a poo. We didn't have that problem; dd was in pre-school at 3, but she would only ever poo in one place, at one particular time of day.

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ojsmum · 22/01/2006 19:46

He is 18 months old and we have been changing his nappy at the same times each day but offering him the potty in between to try and show him what to do. He is going into the babay unit at the nursery so they are happy to change nappies but don't know if I trust them to continue the work that we have been doing.

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WigWamBam · 22/01/2006 19:51

He's quite young for toilet training at all, IMO - so it's not really surprising that he's not got the hang of using the potty for a poo. All the books say that they're usually clean before they're dry, but I don't know a single person whose child was.

Is he actually reliably dry, or just weeing on the potty because you're putting him on it?

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ojsmum · 22/01/2006 20:01

He asks to go to the potty and his nappies are dry. The only time that they are wet is at night, but not too bothered about that, will tackle that problem later. Started training him at xmas when every time he did a wee or a poo he told me about it. I think that he has got the hang of it now. Haven't gone cold turkey get because I don't want to be dealing with pooy pants

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WigWamBam · 22/01/2006 20:04

No reason why you should. If he's able to tell you that he needs a poo it's easier for you to let him have a nappy when he wants one, though.

I would tell the nursery what you're doing, and that you want them to continue with it - you're paying for the privilege, you should be able to trust them to do it. It probably won't be the first time they've had to deal with a child who is dry but still needs a nappy for a poo.

Pinky1 · 23/01/2006 20:28

We actually had the same problem, it just took some persurverance. He used to have a nappy on loosely and sit on the toilet and do it there. The nappy slowly got looser and looser and we chose some stickers and did a sticker Chart and used the stickers if he could do one without the nappy. (if anyone asks them what the stickers for it can be slightly embarrising? (blush)as he was two and more than willing to tell everyone!!.
This along with making a big fuss of him telling him how clever and what a big boy he was seemed to work.
Good Luck, and just be patient (smile)

cod · 23/01/2006 20:29

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notasheep · 23/01/2006 20:33

He is still a baby

CountessDracula · 23/01/2006 20:43

My dd is STILL doing this at 3.4 months
She has a history of constipation and the Paed has said not to force it so I don't but it drives me bonkers

Lou40 · 23/01/2006 20:56

Hi everyone - i have not posted here before but was wondering if anyone could be of anyhelp - my dd is wanting her new pants on and screams if I try and put her nappy back on but has stopped sitting on the potty or the toilet to perform anything - the minute she starts to wee or poo she freaks out and cries and gets off?

bethski · 23/01/2006 21:11

my ds (2.8 yrs) is very against pooing on the potty / toilet - he actually sat on the toilet and did a poo the other day but nothing since then. When he knows he needs a poo, he takes himself into another room, shuts the door then does it in his pants. He will then come out and announce it to everyone but will make a huge fuss about being changed. I thought that once he'd done a poo on the loo he'd realise how much easier it is, but this doesn't seem to be the case . He had a bug last week and so I had to put him in pull-ups as he had bad diahorrea (I can never spell that one...) and I feel that this has also not helped the weeing situation (neither has the arrival of our new babba, but that's another thread...)

Lou40 · 23/01/2006 21:21

I was not sure wether I should stop and just fight to get the nappy on or keep trying?

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