I'm going out :/

[BenRoo]

This is a really heartfelt call for support so please don't shoot me down in flames!
I have a 15mo DS. I've been out 3 times since he was born. This is mainly due to the fact i'm bf'ing,he's always been a poor sleeper, my friends party quite hard and i have always found it difficult to know when to stop
Well, i'm off out this weekend for one of my best friends 30th birthday party and i'm really nervous! There's other new mums within the group but their more relaxed than i am and have been out many more times than i have. Their LO usually stay with their parents until the following eve. My DH will be at home with our DS on the night and the following day i will obviously have my DS.
I suppose the obvious thing is to pace myself and not stay out too late.
But atm i'm feeling like i shouldn't go out! What's wrong with me? Is this normal?
Has anyone any kind words of wisdom or coping strategies?
FFS i think i need a slap round the face!!!

BenEoo....you sound very anxious about it...is it the going out or leaving your LO?
I am the same though as haven't left my LO more than 5 times in 19months.
If its the going out...just pace yourself & take it hour by hour. If you feel like you don't want to be there...you can alway leave.
If its leaving your LO...you know he will be fine with your DH...you can check-in with him throughout the evening & I'm sure if he needed you..he would call.
I'm sure you deserve some 'me time' so just relax & I hope you have a lovely time.

BenRoo... Sorry-typos on iPhone!

I've found with both of my DCs that the first few times I have felt really odd about going out. By the 5th or 6th times, I have practically tripped out of the door into the waiting taxi. I think it's about getting used to going out again and sort of re-discovering the you that existed before your children came along!

Hi wifey6,
Its more the going out.
I know my LO will be ok,this is at least until 3/4am where he will more than likely ask for a feed. This obviously means I'll have to pace myself,but i'm not entirely sure exactly how much drink i can have?!?
Because my friends are no longer bf'ing they don't really understand and i suppose this immediately makes me feel quite lonely and i'm not even 'out' yet....

Narmada your so right!
Who am i anyway?
I'm confident as a mother and of my choices i make for my child but when it comes to being me i'm completely lost!

I had a night out this weekend in a similar situation. I felt like a knackered old hag. Was too scared to drink much in case I got a bad hangover and was therefore the most sober/boring person there . I was looking at my old friends thinking they were sad, mad and felt so out of touch. Ps - I am 35 and some of them are in their 40s although they are a particularly riotus bunch. I think it must take years to readjust....

I would say as long as you don't get completely lashed you should be OK to feed your older baby. Especially if you stop drinking around 11 pm or so.

Hope you have a fun night and I really do think it's a case of the more you do it, the less wierd it will feel :)

SootySweepandSue
I'm a similar age to you.
One of my friends has suggested going to a local club holding a lets just say particularly 'open minded' night. One we used to go to 10 years ago in our mispent but rather good fun youth.
This fills me with fear,needless to say i'm not going to that particular night not sober anyway
Which takes me back to my original worry....

If you're going to drink make sure you eat something carby first. Don't have 2 glasses of wine with just a salad .

Hope you have fun!

Good tip Meglet thank you!