I know it is a normal behaviour in a 2 years old but I need new ideas and someone to tell me that it ill end soon please

[MsBakingCakes]

DD (2.5years old) is driving me mad sometimes. I just don't know what else to do and I need some new ideas to deal with these things better. So there it goes:

1. Getting dress can be a battle. I let her know that in 5 minutes she will get dress and then I start the count down. She helps to get dress (sometimes) other times she starts saying NOOOOOO and then I tell her that once she is ready to carry on getting dress to let me know. At the moment I walk away she starts screaming that she is ready so when I go to help her she starts shouting NOOOOO again . It does not stop even though I let enough time to get her dress so we are not late to go to pre-school and me to work. Sometimes at the end I have to dress her fighting because we can not wait any longer. Even when this happens I let her know that if she does not get dress I will have to do it and she still shout back NOOOOO. Other times she is fine getting dress and I am not sure why there is not a battle . Any ideas please ?

1. She keeps al her toys in the floor even when I asked her to tidy up. I have tried everything and still she does not want to do it. I know she can do it because she does it at the childminder's house and she knows the meaning of tiding up . I have made games about tiding up and still does not work. Is she too young to introduce a box to confiscate toys? I am considering using this as next option.

1. Being rude and shouting back. She won't listen and wen I am trying to explain her something she will shout NOOOOO and then turn around so she gives me her back (not sure where she has learnt this). Usually I tell her that if she does not listen to me I will not listen to her either as it is not nice. Everytime I say this she will turn around and tell me that she is listening but when I start talking she will shout NOOOOO and turn around so I just tell her that is not listening again . How do I stop this? This behaviour is very recurrent at the moment and even when I ignore this it does not seem to stop as it has been happening for a while.

So any new ideas/tricks that we can use pleaseeeeeeeeee?

Thanks in advance

oh it sounds like my DD 3.5 year old! and she started this behaviour from when she was two.

I took a good friends advice and asked DD to choose an outfit the night before and lay it out for her, set an alarm clock to go off in her room and turn it into a game. Say "when the alarm goes off see if you can get ready before mummy and if you need help then call me." Then reward her with a sticker on a chart or a piece of pasta in a jar.

When she gets to her target say 5 stickers she gets a small treat. Has been working for us ever since. And this morning DD made all beds and tidied up

It will get easier and I'm sure you will get some fantastic advice on here.

Stop reasoning with her and just do it. She will soon realise that her screaming and noooo-ing have no effect. Re the rudeness and shouting back, just ignore it. Walk away. Give her zero attention. Praise as much as you can the good stuff or implement the sticker chart as ilovezumba says. But basically, you are the parent, and sometimes she just has to do as she's told.

No real advice just wanted to say I'm having the same issues with my ds who is 2.7yrs especially the shouting back. I have decided just to ignore it now and not engage in conversation as the more I say please don't shout the more he shouts?!?

All sounds entirely normal to be. Just be firm on the things that really matter to you and pick your battles with the rest.

me not be!

few basic things:

give fewer choices

praise the good and ignore the bad

pick your battles

I'm a cm and I have 6-7 dc's in the house and at 4.45pm it is tidy up time and everyone car the under 18mths age helps, the older ones will give a toy to the younger ones and tell them which box to put it into if encouragement is needed - maybe you could try that? You could even get a few different coloured boxes and it would help her learn her colours too. Once tidying is done she gets lots of praise and a sticker if she doesnt help and wont be encouraged tidy without her but give her no attention for it just do it quietly - she will learn from watching you and being a role model is very important imo.

Good Luck. Deep breath's! Remember it's only a phase it's only a phase. My dd2 is 6yrs now and she could be a right madam at times I remember a huge tantrum once while I had 2 sleeping babies in the house because she wanted to go outside in her vest in November!

It will pass. But - get it right now and you will have a much easier and pleasanter time of parenting for the next couple of years!
Reward good behaviour, best way is with positive response on your part, smiles etc - but even at this age, they will get more tangible benefits too - stickers, toys, chocolate buttons (for when you really need their co-operation!)
Ignore bad behaviour. Even negative attention is worth having, but no response from you is unrewarding.
Signpost clearly what is going to happen next - in 5 minutes we need to leave etc. Don't threaten a punishment/retribution unless you mean to carry it out.
If you say, 'if you don't get dressed, you will have to nursery in your pj's' then take her to nursery in her pj's.
Nooo is a favourite word at this age - sometimes my DD used to say it, even when she meant yes!
Personally, I found making my DD laugh when she was on the verge of being a bit diva-ish helped - either by playing or joking or tickling her.
She is now nearly 5 and is delightful and mostly compliant child.

When you say "don't", many toddlers only hear the thing you don't want them to do (eg don't shout, they shout). Tell them what you want eg speak quietly.

Tidying up - DS prefers to help as opposed to doing it if asked. So I'll tidy and direct him to assist. If he doesn't, ignore, if he does I praise.

If he's not listening (he won't know what the word means), I tell him to look at me (look at mummy), then I know I have his attention. Then I'll tell him what is required. Whether he does is another matter

Don't over explain things either. Keep it short and sweet! So I say no hitting because it hurts. No more than that. As DS gets older, I'll say more I'm sure.

Dressing - DS has no choice in outfits. Instead we involve him in the process (lift your arms etc etc). We also let him practise getting dressed at other times of the day with the aim of him doing it himself one day!

DS is 2.3 btw. I don't have any magic answers but the above usually works for me!

I read on here to quickly get them dressed the moment they awake, while theyre still a bit groggy and dont have the fight in them yet!
Keep modelling the tidying.
Keep instructions really short, about 4 words.

Thanks to all of you and the advice given. I will try some of them, I am not very happy about rewards and charts sorry but will try in other ways. I only hope this phase end sometime soon . I like it the idea of the alarm o'clock and the race .

Jut before after we came back from the pre-school she started a bit of a tantrum and at the end I asked her if she was tired and wanted to go to sleep, she said yes and now she is sleeping on the sofa. Why didn't I try this before ? I have learnt a new trick today