Very clingy 8 week old!

[stillinpjs]

Hi,
I know dd is still very young but i'm a little worried (not to mention exhausted) by her clingyness. She wont go to anyone, not even dh, for more than 2 mins (just enough time for me to go to the loo) before she screams, usually making herself sick in the process.
DS was similar in that he didn't like to be left for long in moses basket etc but could be comforted by dh/ gps etc.
Any ideas? Is this normal or something to worry about? I think its starting to get my dh down a bit.

Perfectly normal :)

Time will sort it out, nothing else.

You get to go to the loo alone? Dd was accompanying me at that age.

It's totally normal and it will improve. I found a sling invaluable to keep dd close and let me get on with things.

she's 8 weeks old!!!!!!!!

As i said initially, I know she's still very young CDM. It's just really starting to upset dh that she screams every time i pass her to him. He's only getting to hold her for a couple of minutes a day at the moment as she gets so upset.

Could he try with her is a sling (and do the hoovering?) It's like one of those magic tricks that was brought out time and time again in our house. Our floors were never as clean as when we had newborns in the house!

Very normal, rest assured. Wait 'til she's walking-you won't be able to go to the loo alone! Yy to a sling for dad. Maybe you can tuck in a bit of muslin or a scarf that smells like you?

How is your DH feeling when you hand her over? Is he tense? Nervous? She will be picking up on both of your signals.

Babies love deep voices, so maybe he can sing/croon to her and gently hush her.

A clingy baby is normal - they are designed to want adult contact at all times. Remember that for a baby, life is still seen from a 'Stone Age' perspective, so if they are left alone their instincts are genuinely telling them that they are at risk of dying. That's why they get so upset, it really is a life or death situation for them.

The quickest way to make her less clingy, strange as it sounds, is to give lots and lots of cuddles. Slings are great as they mean you can get on with life whilst still keeping her close.

I think i'm with birds actually, yes its normal for babies to want to be held, but unless they are hungry and want to breastfeed, in my opinion at 8 weeks they aren't normally so fussy who holds them (i think that comes later). Maybe your DH needs to hold her a bit while you also snuggle close to him so your DD can perhaps sense you both at the same time and start to associate him also with being a 'safe' place to be. I can understand that your husband finds this upsetting and you must be espcially exhausted. I hope things get better soon.

Hi, my baby is 4 1/2 weeks and is very similar to yours. She will now go to dp but no one else really. We are co-sleeping as she wakes from even the deepest sleep within a few mins when in moses basket, cot or bouncy chair. How/ where does your dd sleep?

To get her used to dp we put one of his t-shirts on me while she slept so she got used to his smell. He also read to her and used a sling on dog walks - she did cry a bit at first but she is used to it now.

Not sure if that is of any help or not.

Thanks, will definately get a sling in use and try the t-shirt thing. We also co sleep. Funnily enough though she'll sit for longer in her bouncy chair (up to about 5 mins) if she can see me (I sometimes do this to have a quick shower/bath) but just wont tollerate other people.
It's come to a bit of a head this wk end as we visited gps and none of them could hold/ cuddle her without instant tears.
Thanks for all the advice. X

I found 3-12 weeks a very difficult time.

Slings v good,mmaybe you can have snuggles alltogether on the sofa at night so that the baby can get used to your DH?