Help to end accidental co-sleeping!

[bumperella]

My LO always slept very well, until moved into her own room at 6 mnths. She always settled v quickly if put into our bed. We started doing it occasionally, but it quickly became a habit, so now she starts off in her cot, but waken at around 1am at which point we'd put her in bed with us. She's now nearly 10 mnths... how do we break the habit??
We've tried leaving her to settle down, for the last three nights we've tried to let her cry it out (horrible), but she just becomes more upset, verging on hysteria. If we go to her then leave when she's still awake, she goes nuts: it's like a temper-tantrum, but is she not too young for that...??
We moved her cot back into our room, thinking being nearer to us would help. It's made no difference though.
Any advice?

Persevere with settling her in her own room. Even if you have to sit with her for a while until she nods back off and you can slip out. I think if unchecked crying is escalating that isn't doing anything positive. Does a warm drink or a nappy-change help? Otherwise, spend long enough creating a new habit that she stays in her cot until morning, and it'll overtake the old habit eventually.

Late thought.... cots can be big empty places when you're used to being squashed into a bed with two adults. Some babies like it if there are rolled up towels acting as buffers in the cot, reducing the sleeping area and making them feel more secure.

We have a similar routine where dd (8 mo) starts off in a cot and then comes into bed with us during the night which we're trying to tackle. I don't have any advice but wanted to let you know you're not alone!

I've looked at lots of techniques like the pick up put down technique or one in the no cry sleep solution which basically revolve around staying with your baby and comforting them without picking them out of the cot, but my dd doesn't seem to calm down no matter how much shushing and patting I do. LAst night she screamed for 5 mins (I hadn't left her, I was right there comforting) and was promptly sick. It was awful.

Have you seen this thread on the sleep forum? Would something like that work for you?

I was feeling like we're the only ones - lack of sleep ruins all perspective. Ironically, it's really easy to get her off to sleep in the evening, and she'll sleep in her cot for around 5 hrs before the wakenings start. Haven't tried nappy changes (she doesn't seem to notice/care about the state of her nappy during the day) but will try that tip... Am worried about giving her something to drink to settle her in case that then becomes a habit in itself.
She gets incredibly angry and upset if she's left for more than a couple minutes to settle herself, and then she's in too much of a state to get back to sleep.
Tonight the cot's going back into her own room, with a comfy chair for me beside it....

d'oh - have jsut found the "sleep" section, where I should've put this. Apologies.

Hello
Our DS used to fall asleep easily at bedtime and then wake at about the same time most nights. DP thought it might be that DS was getting cold in the middle of the night, so we moved him into a thicker grobag and that seemed to help alot.

not sure if this helps but it seemed to work for DS.

mumat, we initially thought she was getting cold at night, and have tried warmer grobag to no avail. Great minds think alike :)