Tell me about the routine your three month old has / had please

[theterribletwos]

Apart from knowing he needs a nap two hours after he wakes up, I don't think I'm being very good at identifying DS2's natural routine yet.

He also feeding like crazy! When he's awake he'll happily feed for 75% of that time. This means I can't really go anywhere without him unless I'm gone for about 15-20 mins or less.

(at night he can sleep for maybe three hours initially if I'm lucky, but then will wake every 90 mins or so).

So, give me an idea of what other babies this age are doing please!

bump?

Bump again???

Mine was roughly
7am feed
9am snooze
11am feed
12.30 snooze
2 pm feed
6 pm feed
10.30 dream feed
Hope that helps

3mo is still v young for routines, especially if you're bfing, I think. However, when ds was that age I did an Eat/Activity/Sleep routiney thing on about a 3 hourly cycle. He could only do about 90min awake before getting grumpy though...

I'm roughly following the GF routine, which works out pretty much the same as Nevercan:

7am awake and feed
9am sleep
10am awake
10.45/11am feed
1pm sleep
3pm awake and feed
5pm sleep
5.15/5.30 awake
Bath and feed
sleep about 7/7.30
Dream feed 11pm
Night feed 4am

He is ff, and it does seem to work pretty well for my DS who is also 3 months, but timings are very flexible! I try to get him to sleep a max of about 3/3 and a half hrs during the day which means he sleeps fairly well at night. He gets tired after being awake about 2 hrs.
I think whatever routine you use you have to be led by your LO and what sort of day they're having, growth spurts etc.
I do notice the difference when I don't follow it though, like today; he has just literally gone to sleep tonight after a huge mega meltdown from overtiredness. HTH

thinking back a bit but DS and DD would do 90mins - 2hrs awake at a stretch with a feed (some BF some FF) every time they woke with bedtime 9pm ish and get up about 6am (though DS slept through from then, DD at 9m is still waking . Its early days for a routine but a pattern should be emerging. IS she really feeding or just comfort sucking? Would a dummy help?

Thanks guys. The space between feeds for your dc's seems huge compared to ours. I think there is an element of comfort sucking but for the last week he's been chewing his fists like a mad thing, of I kiss or touch the side if his face his little mouth shoots round and he tries to latch on to whatever it is. I wondered if he might have a bit of reflux as he possets a lot but then he can sleep lying down for up to three hours on a good day.
I think because I have ds1 I haven't taken as much notice of ds2's natural routine. I also have the problem of him not being very happy to nap in a cot during the day. The only sure-fire way I can get him to sleep is to take him out in the pram.

My DS is also mad on sucking his fists right now theterribletwos, I wondered if it could be the very early signs of teething, he's dribbling a lot more now as well, or could it just be developmental he's now discovered his hands?

Sorry to hijack this a little but i seem to read everywhere how the bubs will feed, stay awake then sleep.

My dd is 6 weeks she insists on feeding as soon as she wakes up, she will stay awake for a hour or so then insist on feeding again then fall asleep after 2nd feed, is this normal or should i try to set in a better routine as she gets older? obviously no routine can really be set yet.

My DS has always done the same kayjaybabe; eaten half of his bottle maybe then gone back for seconds before he goes to sleep. I guess sometimes he is not hungry enough when he wakes up to take a full feed or he needs a small feed for comfort to get to sleep. Have to say as he's got older (13 wks now) he does do this a bit less and tends more often than not to be able to sleep without a second 'round'. Maybe because he can now fit more in his stomach perhaps. I think introducing a routine also helped as it spaced his feeds a bit better. I should try not to worry about it too much unless it's causing you a problem.

I could certainly never get DS1 to go to sleep without a feed (he still has milk before his naps / night sleep at 2.3) and I don't expect DS2 to stop being fed to sleep anytime soon!

Thank-you!! :)

If YOU don't need a routine you don't HAVE to have one - I can't remember when my kids were 3 months old but I know I just fed them when they were hungry and put them to sleep when they were tired... I did write down feeds so I could keep a track of what they were guzzling. I felt like I spent my entire day bf DS1 until my Mum advised me to use hungry baby formula/bottle for the food and boob for a bit of comfort. Worked a treat - baby suddenly went into 5/6 regular predictable feeds. So I did it with all the others straight away - from what I've seen with friends etc. .. it's really hard to get into a routine while bf.

None WHATSOEVER.

Constant 'comfort feeding' (a misnomer as this is actually an instinctive way to build supply). It's not unusual at 3 months to still be doing this, although it is tiring.

Some babies have less natural rhythm than others, I think.

DS was ebf at 3 months and had no routine whatsoever (or I couldn't find it, although believe me I tried). He was feeding roughly every couple of hours, but it was often every 1 - 1.5 hours, particularly during a growth spurt. He could stay awake for about 90 mins - 2 hours max. He wouldn't nap in his cot until he reached 5 months.

The only "routine" I was quite strict about was bedtime. DS loves his bath so it was bath every evening, then feed, then sleep, which seemed to work for us. I think at 3 months the longest stretch he was doing was 3-4 hours, then up every couple of hours for a feed.

A routine started to emerge after 6 months, when he could stay awake for longer, and now at almost 1 he has a 30 min morning nap and a 1.5hours lunchtime one. He seemed to fall into this pattern more or less by himself, but I did try to put him down at the same time each day. This was easier after he was established on solids.