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I don't like boys, boys are bold!

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AThingInYourLife · 26/01/2012 10:32

DD1 (3.9) is at nursery and recently she has been opining an lot on how naughty boys are and how she doesn't like them and won't play with them.

She did NOT pick this up at home.

DH and I have been responding by not taking it at seriously, but still tackling it

e.g. what about Patrick (her cousin, my DSis's boy, the child she plays best with in the world) - he's a boy, you like him.

well, I know somebody else who sometimes does bold things, but is really a very good girl (i.e. HER)

poor Daddy, he's a boy (DH does very fake joke crying - she knows he's not really sad)

Should I just ignore it? I'm torn between not wanting to take a 3 year old too seriously and not wanting to confirm her idea that boys are bold and horrible and she shouldn't play with them Confused

There are more boys than girls in her nursery class, and they have parties that only the boys are invited to, so they are a bit of a tribe. Maybe it's just that the class has kind of split into boys and girls.

The stupidest thing is that there are about 5 or 6 children she talks about at home and 2 of them are boys.

Apparently they are not bold like the other boys Hmm

Actually, just reading this I can see how ridiculous it is. I should just ignore.

Has anyone else experienced this? Where is she getting these ideas? From the nursery teachers?

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OrmIrian · 26/01/2012 10:35

Yes please ignore it Grin In fact it would be a good idea to keep the idea going until she leaves secondary school. DD is 12 and doing really well in school but has just started to notice boys and sadly the boys she likes seem to be the 'bold' ones (not the word that DH uses for them).

DS2 is 8 and still doesn't think much to girls. I am guessing he will change his mind in the years ahead....

AThingInYourLife · 26/01/2012 10:43

"In fact it would be a good idea to keep the idea going until she leaves secondary school."

:o

Good idea!

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AlmaMartyr · 26/01/2012 10:46

Is it possible she's talking about it more because you're asking her about it? My DD (3.5) comes out with random statements sometimes but if she senses she's got our attention she really gets into it and gets more outlandish. She's recently been going on lots about who her current 'best friend' is and I think I was making it worse by responding, so now I totally ignore it and she's stopped talking about it a bit. Might just be mine though! Not sure what's normal.

Otherwise, I would think that this is fairly common but not sure where it comes from - other girls maybe?

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Xanadudoo · 26/01/2012 10:46

lol!

Are you Irish?

My Irish gray used to call me 'a bold child'

AThingInYourLife · 26/01/2012 10:52

Yes, I'm Irish :)

Alma - I never bring it up, and I don't always respond. But you could be right, maybe I'm giving it too much attention and so she thinks it's a good conversation piece :o

If it's normal, then that's OK. I don't think I got into a boys v girls state of mind until I was 6 or 7.

She must be just very advanced Wink :o

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OrmIrian · 26/01/2012 11:54

Aha! It's Irish usage is it? I knew exactly what you meant by 'bold' but it's not something I hear often.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 26/01/2012 12:19

DS often told me that 'girls are bossy' and kept a wide berth. But, since I am a girl and I am also bossy, I didn't have much to come back with except... yes, they probably are. :)

AThingInYourLife · 26/01/2012 12:39

Ha ha, yes, bold is Irish-English for naughty.

Naughty sounds very Enid Blyton to my ears :o

Cogito - :o @ girls are bossy

DD1 is very bossy, the boys probably all think girls are bossy because of her.

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ReneeVivien · 26/01/2012 12:44

My dd was exactly the same at age 3-4. On and on she would go: boys have no feelings, you can see it in their eyes; boys are smelly and don't look nice; boys have mean souls. I used to keep my comebacks light, but actually it did bother me - I think because I am a lesbian mother, and worried that people would think I was turning her against men or some nonsense.

Anyway, she grew out of it and all through Reception her best friend was a boy. He left the school, she then found another best friend - also a boy.

It will run its course!

AThingInYourLife · 26/01/2012 13:18

Thanks Renee, good to know she's not the only one and that I'm not the only eejit being bothered by it :)

:o @ boys have mean souls - her pronouncements sound quite profound compared to DD's complaints

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StitchingMoss · 26/01/2012 13:23

My DS does exactly the same thing about girls - I ignore it unless I hear him saying to one of his many girl friends!

MamaLazarou · 26/01/2012 14:56

What's wrong with being bold?

FunnysInTheGarden · 26/01/2012 15:07

DS1 does this about girls and really has done since he started reception. I don't make too much out of it, and I think it is just a phase while he establishes himself as a 'boy'. He has always had loads of female friends too!

Taken · 26/01/2012 15:18

My ds didn't seem to interact or like girls much. Got a few invites to parties and when I asked him if he wanted to go he replied, 'I'm not going to a girls party'. Think it's just phases they go through because he's six now and has a 'girlfriend' that he intends to marry!!

AThingInYourLife · 26/01/2012 15:33

I had no idea small children were so aware of gender.

Fascinating!

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