DD's first boyfriend : /

[niamh29]

DD1 is 5.5 and yesterday told me a boy she plays with and is very good friends with asked to kiss her, she said yes and they kissed on the cheek ( she said she was too young to kiss on the lips) I playfully agreed and said when she was 20 she could kiss on the lips.

I want her to feel like she can tell me everything and it's not like I think I should be sitting her down for a big "relationships" talk but is there something I should be saying or boundaries I should be setting, this is new territory for me!

Thanks!

This is par for the course and nothing to worry about imo. They don't mean anything by saying so and so is their boyfriend, they'll probably tell you they have a new one every day.

I raised a 'bear-hugger' .... and, because little kids really don't like being lifted off their feet in the dinner queue, we had to have a chat about when/where it was appropriate ie. not at school and not if the other person objects. Kissing falls into the same sort of category, I think. You might want to extend the chat to physical contact more generally. It's not too early to explain that if they don't want someone to touch/kiss them, they can say 'no'.

We've already had the good touch, bad touch talk but I think a friendly general chat might do the trick, she's definitely a hugger too so I think just a little boundary talk will cover it all........thanks!

DD1 (5.5) has had marriage plans since she started in reception. They're very loyal to each other but will happily explain that they have to wait until they have left school and been to University. They have even planned where they'd like to live and DD would like a willow tree in the garden that dips into a stream! I think DD likes to kiss him but he tends to run away apparently so she does it less now...

All pretty normal in my book

DD had a kissing boyfriend at 6 who she held hands with and who put her in his treasure box in Y1. I was terrified dd was going to grow up into a slutforward little girl, like her marmy. Now she's in Y6, age 11, and she can't stick the boy. She hasn't liked a boy since (though I suspect she has a mad crush on a boy in her class, though she insists they're just friends :)

DS1 (3) told us he asked a little girl at nursery if he could kiss her, and then proceeded to imitate the little girl's disgusted face. (im very proud he did ask her before doing it and then refrained to do so when he understood she wasnt keen)

it made us laugh. i dont think you should worry too much about it!!

Aw, how sweet!