How do you find the time to have YOU time? (have 15m DD, and 23wks pg)

[Dozeyland]

Any tips?

I am currently raising DD alone, as DP is away until the baby is due.
We see him weekly but I am alone in looking after DD. We love
And miss him dearly..

I can hardly find the time to have a bath/shower etc. We attend
Playgroups daily if not every other day, I find it best keeping
Ourselves busy, as DD loves playing & learning.

She does have a nap around midday, if we're not out. We'll
Be at home but then there is always something that needs doing. (Housework etc)

I can't really bath/shower etc when she's in bed as it would be too noisy.

Its just little things that I could do when dp was here (bath/shower/paint nails/take care of me you know?

I give my everything to our DD, just hope it doesn't take its toll on me especially
Being pg..

Sorry for the moan

Also wondering hoi'm going to find even more less time with 2 DCs ;-)
I can't wait until dp is home and I can once again have a luxurious hot bath undisturbed :)

Evenings? Can you leave the housework for 30 mintues, an hour when DD asleep in the day and have a rest or you time.

It must be tough being pregnant with another baby and doing it alone, it does get easier.

Also wanted to add that when DC"2 gets past the tiny baby stage, they will entertain each other so it won't be so full on for you.

Do you have any family nearby? Do you have spare cash to pay childcare?

Do you have any friends with similar age children?

Surely your 15 mo sleeps during the day? Can't you have a bath then? Or when she's in bed?

Yes childcare is a good idea or family help. I put DD in nursery for 2 mornings when she was 6 months old.

Also, LOWER YOUR STANDARDS! It really doesn't matter if the baby isn't bathed every day. Or if the dusting isn't done.

What does matter is looking after yourself so sleeping enough, eating well, being happy.

Oh and also, when your dp is home, do whatever you want or need to do.

I have this problem, I have tried to plan ahead with everything, e.g. if I know DD is due a nap, I run a bath while she is playing and then put her down for a nap and bath is ready and waiting. It uses time a little better, but I sympathise just remember when there are two of them they entertain each other and it's only at this young age that they need your constant attention.

We have family nearby, and they do offer. I just feel like i'm even more lost if she's not with me. as my life is revolved around her. and I know everybody needs space, even her. she does see her cousins a lot, and her little playmates daily. I just feel lost without her as i'm going through a very difficult time right now with DP being away. - shock to the system still.

I am planning on starting a prenatal yoga class for 8 weeks (every sunday for 1hr15) so will have "me" time then i guess.

Cant bath at night as it will wake her. I will try when she naps in the day but there is always something that needs doing, or we're out & about.

When DP is home, he will be more than happy to help. :)

With two young children you will have to face the fact that you may never get any "me time" again

jelliebelly - at first maybe but I have 3 and do have me time, plenty infact.

Scrap having a bath when DD is sleeping. It's too stressful lying there thinking 'If they wake then I need to get out, dressed prepared for afternoon' etc etc. Put your feet up with a book and a cuppa instead x

Awomanscored I love that idea :)

I appreciate that the more children you have, the more of your time they get - but I do believe that everyone is entitled to "timeout" whether that be DD, DP or myself.

Its just tough at the minute, but we will get there. when DP is back we will be back on track.

I think aswel, with me being 23weeks prg, I dont necessarily have the motivation to do stuff with my "short me-time". By the evenings when DD is in bed, I literally just tidy up, have dinner, watch soaps, come on here, then bed.

It just the little things like getting time to make an effort with myself, my hair, nails etc. but i just feel so tired this past week, I think the past 7ish weeks have caught up on me where i've been doing it alone..

Thank you all though.

I find it nice hearing different views.

If i asked you how you spend 1hour of "you time" what would you choose to do?
sleep? pamper? tv? bath?

just interested :)