Help Me Be Strong

[Tee2072]

My DH and I have decided that our 2.7 year old is to not have bottles during the day. Yesterday wasn't too bad but this morning he is screaming that he wants his milk, which is here, just in a sippy cup. He's now standing here sobbing about it.

I.Will.Not.Give.In!!!

Thanks. Same to you.

BTW, thanks to the overwhelming lack of support on this thread my absolutely hysterical son had a bottle of milk this morning. (Part of this sentence is not true)

Fuck the guidelines. And the party line.

So not necessary.

Wow, you are one angry lady!

Are you happy now? I get the feeling you were looking for an argument.

Keep giving him the bottles. Forever. It'll be easier in the long run, and you might not blow your stack at strangers.

I doubt the OP will be back but this was one of the most unecessary overreactions I've seen in a long time.

Hi all,

Can we please remind everyone of our Talk guidelines and can we ask members to respect each other's opinions even if they don't agree with them.

Please do bear in mind how difficult this parenting business can be, and if there's one thing all of us could do with, it's some moral support.

But the OP was given moral support, RebeccaMumsnet. A load of people came on and said: yes, God it's shit isn't it, I dealt with it by doing such and such... No-one said that the OP was doing it wrong or had to do it their way. Surely the whole point of this forum is shared experience. There would be no point in people coming on and saying "I support you, OP" if their is no shared background or experience. If you've been through a situation yourself, you are perfectly placed to offer support to others currently going through it.

My mouth went like this: at the OP's reaction. I thought, why on earth did she say that in response to perfectly nice and friendly posts.

Good luck! Also please post when things work the way you wish them to. I wish you strength and perseverance! I tried at 18 months with my DS because the Hv made a song and dance about how bad it was for him. And I gave up...he was drinking well, independently and happily but flung the bottle in the washing up bowl the min he was done....and i thought I will give him some more time. Sigh!
Be strong and let us know how it goes in a few week maybe?

Rebecca@mumsnet - I refer you to my previous post.

Tee
BTW, thanks to the overwhelming lack of support on this thread my absolutely hysterical son had a bottle of milk this morning. (Part of this sentence is not true)
Thank God! About time too!!

at this ....

Reeling at this thread...

Everyone is so angry.

OP basically you want a cheerleading squad right?

I am surprised that mn deleted my posts.

I did not swear. For those new to thread, in my first post I expressed surprise at the op's angry response to helpful posts. I used the word 'horrible', which, with hindsight, was childish.

In my second post that was deleted I responded to the op using foul language and saying I was a mn hardliner, by explaining I wasn't at all... in fact, my DS is 18 months and still using a bottle. It had nothing to do with this, and all to do with her unpleasant response.

I was floored by the op being so defensive and angry. I have never posted like it, but I just felt compelled to say something. I was not surprised when the OP spewed foul language at me in responsibilitynse. I was however surprised with mn's censoring of my posts. Shocking lack of consistency.

'In response'.

Jesus, whats with all the hostility?
Your son does not need a bottld of milk at this age, he is perfectly capable of drinking from a sports bottle/sippy cup/ open top cup and maybe your nappy leaking problem has sonething to do with you giving a bottle of milk for bed!!!

It sounds like Laziness to me, shove a bottle in the kids mouth instead of deal with the problem head on!

Chuck all bottles out, then no temptation! Regarding the comment about 'nobody would question if it was breastfeeding' i would actually.

Well that's a most helpful post there FrankiDon.

[sarcastic face]

I know! Iam not normally so rude but, was a little annoyed at how OP reacted to some really useful, helpful advice!
I wasnt a stickler for the 12m/bottle ditching rule (got rid of my sons at 14 months, when he could confidently use a cup)

So no i agree i wasnt being very helpful, but even those that were being helpful got flamed [shrug]

That's the nub though, she wasn't asking for advice, just support.

Obviously having a struggle, she just wanted some pompom waving and nubile pyramids.

Offering advice could be interpreted as an inferred criticism, which, I know, if I was already in a fraught place, would probably have friffed me off.

Let's think about the sisterhood, man.

Well, the OP only says "help me be strong", which the first posters probably assumed they were being when they said "oh yes, stay strong, it's terrible for their teeth," etc.

I think Tee is well out of order on this, and I say it as someone who likes her a lot.