Have a third child and feel very disengaged compared to the other two.

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Do you get less excited with each subsequent baby? I can't remember how i felt with my first but remember singing etc to her and she is a light of my life. My second was very ill so ithe early days were all adrenaline driven and he is so handsome that my heart still melts when i look at him but with my new baby, i'm a bit 'meh'. It's when i realised that i bf her in silence and she doesn't have a lullaby, which the others both had, that i'm curious whether i'm disengaged.

How do others feel?

I think there's something quite lovely about a relationship where everyone is happy to simply be in each other's company and words aren't necessary. I don't think that's being disengaged. I think it sounds like true contentment.

I have three. I am definitely not disengaged-I am however exhausted. So mostly when I feed dd2 I stare out of the window! But I hold her and cuddle her and am with her all the time. I was all singing and dancing with dd1 and I think sometimes I forgot to just "be" with her. I was very busy protecting ds from dd1 when he was a baby! I am pretty sure you're not disengaged, just splitting your attention three ways. And not in a bad way.

I hope this is normal. I'm due with number 3 in 9 weeks and I realised today how much I'm coasting through the pregnancy. With the previous 2 I was far more aware of the end result iyswim, I spent time thinking about them throughout the pregnancy. This time it almost feels far less real. I'm hoping that's because, as everyone has said, you;ve already got 2 children taking up your time, but also I think because the mystery's almost gone. I know I can cope with the birth, I know I can deal with a newborn, I'm not flapping about like I was with number one. This pregnancy is also much easier so far, tiny bump, very little excess weight and no SPD, so it's not forefront in my mind. I haven't even spent that long thinking about names or what the little chap will look like. And love does take time imo. Not everyone has that 'rush of love' you're meant to get at birth. I know I didn't with ds, but it doens't mean I loved him less.