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Whatevertheweather · 16/01/2012 13:11

Last Thursday morning I sent my nearly 5yr old dd to get her school shoes on. After about 5mins she hadn't come back and shouted that she couldn't find them. I went to have a look and couldn't see them where all the shoes are kept either. So she put a pair of boots on and went to school. I thought I must have left them at gymnastics the night before and said this to her. Stupid me. Told dd we would go and buy a new pair on Saturday if they hadn't turned up by then. £36 later in Clarks we now have new school shoes (in the same size as her old ones!) She puts them on this morning and says they feel funny I want my old ones. Explain new shoes do feel funny at first etc and anyway she has no choice. She then disappears and comes back with her old shoes which she had hidden behind a cupboard under the stairs Shock

Part of me wanted to smile at the ta-da flourish she presented them with but actually I'm quite cross I spent an unnecessary £36. There is nothing wrong with her old shoes. I can't take back new shoes as have treated and named them. What would be a suitable punishment do you think? Small,silly things result in the loss of a marble but I kind of want this to be a little more serious as she not only hid them, she lied, allowed me to repeatedly say silly mummy left them at gym and then produced them when she decided she'd rather not wear new ones. She is generally a lovely girl but little fibs are starting to creep in. we had a quick chat this morning and she knows I am cross and that there will be a consequence. She doesn't know why she did it.

Apologies for lack of paragraphs. iPhone app won't let me go back and edit.

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Curlybrunette · 16/01/2012 13:28

They can be so frustrating at times can't they!!!

If you are sure the new ones fit (which I'm sure they do if you got them in clarks and they are the same size as her others) then I would probably take her old shoes away and make her wear the new ones. I would definitely take a marble away, and if she asks for something, some sweets, a magazine, new toy etc. in the next few days I would say no, because you had to spend the money on the new shoes so you don't have any money left for treats.

Alternatively, don't make her wear them (but still take away treats etc.) and get them on Ebay quick smart! You can write that they've been treated and named but not worn (or only worn once if she wore them today). Clarks go for a decent price on Ebay.

Also, you said you were cross at having to spend the money on new ones. I'd be very very cross but I am a grumpy arse at times £36 is a lot of money and for her to hide the shoes for no real reason, and then let you buy her new ones, which she then didn't want to wear. I would be not a happy lady.

5 year olds eh!

BloooCowWonders · 16/01/2012 13:59

For a 4 year old? She knows you're cross, but that's all it needs.

And I'd have looked myself for the shoes.

Whatevertheweather · 16/01/2012 14:33

Thank you Curly. Good ideas there.

Blooo no consequence at all? She is 5 in 6 weeks and I feel she did this wilfully, she knew what she was doing and had she stopped me buying the new shoes I would agree with you. I did look for them but when I couldn't see them (they were very well hidden!) I mentally ran through the night before and as we'd been to gym I just thought I had left them there (she had other shoes to come home in). Had it been a day we'd come straight in from school and I'd known they were on her feet when we came in of course I would have thought maybe she'd hidden them. She had two whole days to say what she had done and even told the lady in Clarks that I'd lost them. Cheeky thing.

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conorsrockers · 16/01/2012 19:30

Personally I would have burst a blood vessel at that point and stopped all tv/computers/sweets/anything that resembles a treat for a week at least. It's a bit late to get cross now! You are obviously such a kind lovely mummy - my kids wouldn't dare do that on fear of certain torture and me stropping about shouting at them for an eternity. Need to be more MEAN!! They will still love you - honest Grin

Whatevertheweather · 16/01/2012 19:50

Ah she's my pfb Conors Smile I did get cross as soon as she admitted she'd hidden them though. I didn't last week as I really thought I had left them at gym so nothing to be cross with her about.

Her consequences are: loss of 4 marbles, has to wait until next week to watch her new fox and hound DVD and no magazine & sweets on Friday which she normally gets after school. She took it quite well. She drew me a picture at school with her and the cupboard and the shoes behind it so I would know where things were if she hid anything again Hmm We are also going to take her old shoes to a salvation army type collection bin at sainsburys to try and teach her money for new shoes doesn't grow on trees.

Although she's been such an angel since we got home; if it carries on I might decide it was worth £36 Wink

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Swimminglikeaduck · 16/01/2012 21:43

Am loving the picture she drew Grin.
Get the picture in a cheap frame and put it on the wall. You can regale everyone with the story for years to come. You ask her, everytime she loses something for years "could it be in the cupboard under the stairs??" All innocent like.
i reckon youll have the last laugh!!

(and yes, your "punishment" sounds fair too )

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