Did anyone fall accidentally PG with third, feel there life was over and have a happy ending!

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As the title already mentions, it's been an accident.

I have a 4 yr old DS and a just turned 2 yr old DD. Had the most stressful 2 years with various things and was starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel - now this.

Honestly, I am GUTTED. I wake up everyday, remember then just sob. I can't do this again.

Had 2 high risk PG, 2 babies with severe reflux so I struggled with the first year of both then ended up with an under active thyriod which causes an exhaustion I can't describe even to woman who have had newborns with reflux, it's a whole new ball game!

I can't see how, with 3, you would ever get out the bit. How would there ever be time in the day they just played and it was quiet. Id imagine with 3 they wouldn't play well together and there would always be someone fighting, moaning or demanding something. I feel like I will never be able to enjoy them.

As for babysitters, ha. My mum is so much less willing since I had two. She keeps telling me two is hard and she prefers when she only has one of them . Don't we all!

Is my life going to be spent chasing them to get shoes on, shouting, never getting peae ever again? I just think It will be too much chaos forever more.

My DH feels exactly the same, gutted.

Will we ever love this baby, or just resent it?

have to say my DC3 is most definitely NOT mega-chilled - he is a stroppy little bugger quite spirited but even with that life is sooo much better with him in it - he is a little ray of sunshine that makes all of our lives so much richer

My #3 is not mega-chilled either. He's extremely demanding and finicky (DM says it's because "he never got a chance to be babied" Thanks Mum!). However, we wouldn't change him; he's deliciously cute and it's nice to have one child that looks like me.

My accidentel no 3 is my precious 11 mo dd We had 3 under 3

I wouldn't change ANY of it for the world now...she's definitely the cherry on top

Obviously it's hard. If you can afford it (we scraped it together) get a cleaner and see if you can hire a mother's help to come over a few x a wk. Those 2 things with a bit of nursery made everything quite pleasant really.

Ds 1 was sooo wanted. I always wanted a large family. He was a nightmare, nightmare birth, colicy, cried constantly, I had mild PND. he turned a corner at 10months but i knew i could never go through it again.

fell pregnant with dd when ds was 11.5 months. god i cried and cried, I took time off work sick. blamed dh constantly. I just knew i could not cope with this again. I considered a termination but could not go through it again as i had one at 20.

I struggeled through the pregnancy. when she was born she "poped out" and after the first few weeks of settling in was a dream. ds took to her at once.

She has made me want more and more. though for money reasons we could not cope.