Is it normal to feel like this?

[toptramp]

One day I love being a mum and really enjoy it. I even get broody. The next day I hate and resent it and never want anymore kids. Agggrrr. i just want to bask in glowy motherhood. It's almost like the reality of being a (single) mum is harder than the dream I had.
Oh yes- I also feel that I would have enjoyed motherhood more if I had a dp. I wouldn't have that restless must find a man if want another baby feeling.

toptramp I can't offer much advice, but didn't want to read and run.

I'm not a single mum myself, but I can imagine how much tougher it is to be a lone parent and I'm not surprised you find it hard to be "glowy" all the time (I think all mums would find that tricky actually, single parent or not!)

Have you tried the lone parents board here on MN? You might find support from others who are in your position.

Good luck

I have similar feelings to you and I have a supportive partner! Some days I really enjoy it and other days I find it really hard. I think we put pressure on ourselves to be perfect mums when the reality is that it is bloody hard work. I think I will prefer the toddler stage more than the baby stage but time will tell. Don't put pressure on yourself it sounds like your doing a great job as a lone parent x

I always feel like that too. Sleepless night and toddler that won't sleep at mo make me feel like the shittest mum in the world. I thought toddlerdom would be easier but it really is hard. Probably just a phase he's in but it's an eternity when your in it. Some days I want my life back how it was before. Then I feel awful because I absolutely love him with all my heart but they bloody hard work and I also have a very supportive dp so you have my respect going it alone. I've never even glowey by the way if it makes you feel better lol

Since become a mum almost 10 weeks ago I have been saying I commend all single mums out there...and parents with twins!! I have no idea how you do it. Seriously, I worship the ground that you walk on.

I love my DH to bits and although we've had some teething problems with who does what and me getting a break....at least I can get a break when I ask for one. He really is great and it's great to have someone there to share the experience. I've been feeling like you, very much up one day and loving it and the next day feeling totally exhausted and pratically trusting her at DH when he walks through the door at the end of the day.

I can't begin to imagine what it's like for you. Well probably the same emotions but more enhanced and with less support. My advice to you is make sure you ask family for help and arrange for friends to come over during the day time, at least those who can. Join some baby groups (although I've not done this myself yet) and meet some new people. Being a mum is the most overwhelming thing ever, taking it on by yourself is something to be truely proud of.