really want another baby but everything is against me...

[lostlilly]

Basically I am really broody and I am really feeling like I have to make a decision quick. However, there are several things that are making me think its a bad idea
Reasons for.....
I have a dd who has just turned 8, she begs and begs foir a brother or sister and I think it would really turn her around if she had a baby sibling as she wants it so much
I am 37 this month so time is definately running out
I feel a bit like my family is not complete with just one child and keep thiking about my new baby, names, girl or boy, getting that excited feeling about meeting my new baby and its doing my head in
We have a nice family home wiht a good spare room and lots of my friends even though were in out mid-late 30's are all having babies or have had babies recently so socially Id have lots of support

Reasons against...
me and my husband have not had the best of times the last couple of years
My husband doesnt want another child!!!!!!!!!!!!! BOOM :-(

lots of typos sorry

nobody answered me :-( there must be other women with some advice ot stories to tell

I'm sorry lost I didn't want your post to go unanswered. What are your DH's reasons for not wanting another? Is there anything you could reassure him on? And when you say not the best of times, how is your relationship at the moment?

What do you mean it would turn your DD around?

I don't think you should have another baby because your 8 year old wants a brother or sister! Unless she is going to get up in the night, look after the baby and support it in everyday then it's not her decision!

Why doesn't your husband want a baby? What's going on in your relationship now then?

I know your dd wants a db or dsis but an 8 year old should not dictate such a life changing decision; you should have one because you and your dh should have one. Try to placate her in the mean time by telling her you can give her all your attention and by also making sure she has play mates.

If you want one you need to talk to your dh.

first chance to see replies, my dd really wants a brother or sister and I really want a baby myself! Its on my mind everyday like I said in the original ppots its like an obession I keep imagining it and cuddling it and smelling it.....
My husband and I have been through a tough couple of years and did actually split for a few months at the start of last year but after some counselling and time apart both realised it wasnt what we wanted. One of the reasons we started falling apart initally was because I wanted another baby and he didn't, he has a son from a previous relationship and says he has got 2 children so he doesnt want anymore, I think thats very selfish personally. Also I am the main earner and he worries about money if I get pregnant now as I am in a good job .....

Poor you OP. What an awful situation to be in.
Have you spoken about your job and what would happen if you get pregnant? Why is your dh worried? does he think you won't go back to work?
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no its just that its taken us along time to get into a decent financial situation, after our last dd was born 8 years ago I couldnt go back to work for a year because she was poorly and he has contact with his son every month which takes him away from the area and puts strain on us, I understand his precautions but at the same time, we are married, have a nice home and daughter and I would love another baby, people have children in far worse circumstances than us

You make a lot of sense. You'll have to try to persuade your dh by pointing out all the pro's. Good luck.