Nursery wobbles. Sorry bit long

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My 2.6 yr old ds has been at the same nursery since 13 months old. He has always been 'shy' there (not something we see at home or at other classes/houses we go to) but has been quite happy to go and to wave us off etc.

A few weeks before Christmas ds started being really negative about nursery (only goes once a week) but we always reminded him how much fun he has. He then started having nightmares and waking 2-3 times a night.

Christmas holidays started so nursery closed for 2 weeks. Sleeping got better and then back to normal. First day back at nursery this morning and last night we told him he would be 'having a a fun day at nursery' cue lots of tears and saying he didn't want to go. Last night he woke crying because he said he didn't wan to go, I avoided the subject and talked about other things and he then slept fine.

This morning has been heartbreaking, lots of tears and upset. DH has now taken him and he was quietly sobbing (more heartbreaking than the kicking and screaming )

What do we do? I'm pregnant and will be going on mat leave in a few weeks. I was planning on keeping him in nursery to stick to his routine until he starts at proper pre school in September. Anyone been through similar?

Thanks

My ds was v wobbly about starting nursery at this age when he had a tiny new sibling so I put it off for 6 weeks and by then he was very happy with it. Can you take a break for a bit. My view is there is no point pushing them away... My ds is now more independent than I actuly wanted!!!! After being pretty clingy when baby was due/born. Personally I'd cut your dc some slack - still so young!

I am certainly not pushing him away or trying to make him more independent. I work so he goes to nursery once a week and family the other day. The nursery say he is fine once he is there but they are bound to say that!

I'm going to ring in a bit and see if he's settled. I actually thought taking him out when his sibling is born would be more unsettling to his routine but who knows!

I am currently going through the same thing, my son screams every morning before going to nursery. He goes 2 days a week. I don't know what to do and have to wave him off while he is crying and then I spend the rest of the day feeling terrible about it! So I don't really have any advice as I am in need of some myself!

OP - no real advice but just to say I am going through the same thing with DD1. She is 2 and started nursery for just 2 mornings a week a couple of months ago. She settled there quickly and was very happy and chatty while there. However, today was her first morning back since before Xmas ie in 3 weeks and she screamed the house down when I trie to leave her.Heartbreaking. am hoping after today/tomorrow she will remember how much fun she has there and willbe ok when she goes next week but its not easy. :(

Thank you. So it's seems we're not alone! I rang nursery and he settled down quite quickly but didnt want to join in so they let him read some books with his comforter (it usually goes straight in his bag and only comes out for his nap) His rabbit has always given him confidence before so maybe knowing he can have it at nursery will make him feel better. I'm going to pick him up straight after his tea so it's not such a long day and do something nice with him before bedtime.

Fingers crossed it gets better again!