Help, I can't see any positives in having 3

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I found out a few weeks ago im having a very unexpected third.

I have a 4.5 yr old boy and a just turned 2 yr old girl.

We had recently found we were getting our lives back.

We have had an awful 2 years. I won't bore you with every detail just to say it involves major money problems, death and moving house just in June there to find we had to sell the house we built over 2 years because of money. It is still on the market now.

I had an underactive thyroid after DD and like DS she had awful Reflux (screaming day and night) for the first 6 months). It has taken 2 years for the doc to finally get my levels right and have only just felt better this last few months.

So you can imagine my horror when I realised I was PG again.

I had 2 high risk PG and now I am 35 im scared.

Whenever im out with my 4 yr old and 2 yr old im thinking, god, this is more than enough to deal with. Any more and I can't imagine how I will round them all up in shops/cafe's etc! I will surley loose one.

Im worried about not putting enough into the two I've got when I have another baby. Im not the most energetic/enthusiastic mother on earth , I want to kill Mr Maker for bringing so much glue and glitter into our lives and as for staying in the house with them for hours playing and making stuff - arrgghhhhhh, i've had more than enough.

I love them to bits and do enjoy them at the most part but as I keep saying, 2 was the right amount for me to cope with.

Please give me some positives (and maybe some truthful advice) on having 3 to stop me blubbing every night.

• I hope I haven't upset anyone who is trying for a baby as I know Im lucky to have children.....I just may have bitten off more than I can chew!

Well I love having three! I would be lying if I said I didn't occasionally look at the older two and think how independent they are now and how much easier two would be but ds3 brought a joy of his own. Everyone adores him. I do just love having him so much. Hopefully this baby will be the chilled type, that sleeps well and is no bother. Do you have family who can help you? How does your dh feel? My sister had three under 4 and she did have days when she found it difficult at the very start but mostly with getting dc1 to nursery with the other two in tow. Do you work or SAHM? Work has always been my biggest pressure but I know everyone is different.

Congratulations and good luck!

I am SAHM now. I was pondering going to work next year but won't now.
DH works and we will be financially ok once the house sells (if ever).

My DH feels exactly the same as me, a bit gutted at the moment after our last 2 years. We were really starting to feel the pressure lift a bit.

My DS will start school in August and the baby is due in August .
My DD will start nursery in the January in the afternoons. I will basically be running back and forth to nursery and school for 2.5 years with 3 of them. Something I used feel sorry for with my friends with 3.

We had moved out to the country side away from family for the better schools/lifestyle for the kids.

Now we will be running back to the town with our tails behind our legs.

I feel like im letting my DS & DD down.