Naked in bed (NIB)...

[foxycowan]

I have worn pyjamas to bed for 4 yrs, ever since 1st DS was born. We now have a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old and DH and I have decided to go commando to re-ignite the fire. It's working, NIB is a much better way to sleep. But... DH wants us in our pjs before the kids come in in the morning. He feels uncomfortable with us naked and them climbing into bed with us. I don't really think it's an issue. We've been married 8 yrs, we're not all over each other, so there's no inappropriate behaviour, it's just NIB! What do you think?

DH and I were always NIB pre-children. But once the kids started clambering into bed with us, we opted for PJs. It's not so much whether you are up to anything, but my two are constant "petters" and have to be caressing a parent when snuggled up in bed and their little hands can accidentally end up in some awkward places. I'm afraid I agree with your DH.

I don't see what your dh problem is tbh. If you want to be nib do so.

DH and I have always slept naked , DS, now 4 comes into bed with us in the morning. I had never even considered there might be something wrong with it. I can see there would come a time, as DS gets older when maybe he/we would become uncomfortable with it, but we are certainly not there yet.

It is fair enough if your DH feels uncomfortable with it, he can't help how he feels. Could he not put his PJ's on in the morning if that's what he prefers and you stay as you are?

If dh wants his pjs on that's up to him, if you don't that's up to you.

I dont understand the problem, me and dh always sleep naked, at that age i dont see an issue.
Dd is now 15 so that would be weird.

mosschops30, is all that changed in your house was as DD got older, she stopped getting into bed with you? You didn't change anything? Her choice?

Thanks everyone for replying, really good to hear neither of us is right/wrong - just different opinions and probably different upbringing - his slightly stricter.

we sleep naked and dd (8) and ds (5) still occasionally get into bed with us in the morning although much less often than they used to

We go for the compromise of me wearing a nighty and him wearing boxers, so somewhat covered up. I agree people's opinions on this are highly dependent on what their own parents did.

dh sleeps in pj's I sleep naked. Do what feels best for you.

DH and I were both of the NIB persuasion before we married and saw no reason to alter our sleeping habits when DCs arrived. If your DCs are anything like ours, though, the biggest issue is likely to be that once they gain access to your bedroom (and your bed) on their terms rather than yours, they are likely to want to follow your NIB example, so be prepared for some serious negotiation as to if/when/where/how this is acceptable. It's a phase that passes - bed-hopping offspring grow up into teens, who generally prefer the privacy of their own bedrooms!

We're both NIB folk and our DS 6 & 2 come into our bed every morning. It's never been an issue and until DS1 feels uncomfortable we will carry on being NIB.

DH and I have always been NIB. The DC are 12 and nearly 11. They have always worn PJ's. There was never any problem with them coming into our bed in the morning.

I have no memory of what my mother and father wore in bed.