What do you think of this?

[PiedWagtail]

A friend has taught her 4yo ds Alex to ask 'please could I borrow that/play with that?' when he wants to borrow a friend's toy. Fine - but what if it's a toy that has just been picked up by his playmate Ben?? Surely Ben is within his rights to say 'I've only just started to play with it and I want to play with it for a while'? Alex's mum has taught him that whenever he asks a friend 'nicely' for a toy he should expect to be given it, under any circumstances! Alex is a poor sharer himself What do you think???

I think you're Ben's mum.

But yes, Ben would be within his rights to keep the toy for a certain length of time.

I think Alex would get annoying v quickly.

I teach that kind of thing to my preschool class, with the addition of when you're finished so "Ben" can still have his go, but "Adam" has called dibs when he's finished. It works quite well, and in preschool they use sand timers to define the length of a "turn" fairly.

My DD also knows how to ask nicely. But she knows that if the other child says 'Jo's, then that's tough and she has to find another toy or wait her turn.

Ridiculous to teach a child that you can have anything you want so long as you say 'Please'.

Says 'No'.

Damn predictive text.

it works for me, dh is very compliant.