Long winded and just dont know really

[chezziejo]

Little man is 18 months old, and was a lovely kid up to 13 months when he got a cold, ended up in hospital for a few days and since then has every bug going. Some i dont even know what they are. He recently had severe gastro enteritis and had a day in hospital, ten days later we had our little boy back, happy and cheerful. He then got a temp,followed by a rash treated for possible ear inf. Had antibiotics which i darnt give him as he had terrible trapped wind with it. He is clingy, cries a lot, stopped sleeping through, difficult to put to bed. I know hes been poorly but im at the end of my tether. What the hell am i doing wrong,i feel an awful mother. I love him dearly but im finding myself anxious being alone with him because of the crying etc. He has also started on the paddying too throwing things if not getting his way. I cuddle him, reassure him, try distracting him, play with him. Hes quite shy anyway but i dunno. I try to be calm and confident in front of him, but i find it so difficult, i just sobbed the other day. Is it normal for toddlers to be like this and pick up lots of bugs? During all this i have suffered a miscarriage and had to go breast clinic, which has been scary. DP is great but even he is feeling it now. I have suffered anxiety in the past but is it me causing all this with him? I am not good with no sleep, some sleep is ok, but the night time screaming from the antibiotics really finished me off. I do think its tiredness over 5 months of hell just caught up with me. We have him in a good routine generally,bath,drink, story and bed for 8:30. Also hes a funny arse eating, wont eat veg, ok with fruit. Putting that down to toddlerdom. His speech is not coming, he can say words his fave at mo is pointing at dogs saying woof woof but thats it. He knows what things are as ifi ask if he wants an orange points at the fruit bowl. Identify animals in books etc. I dont even know what im asking. Is this clinginess, crying for sometimes i just dont know what normal i suppose.

Thanks for reading and on a positive i may well have cured your insomnia

Hi
Sorry you are going through all this, it cam be sheer hell can't it?
My ds started nursery at 8 months and up until then hadn't been Ill at all. However from then until he turned 2 he got everything going, gastroentiritis, bronchiolitis, hand foot and mouth three times (even though was told he could only get it once), slapped cheek syndrome, numerous coughs and colds and vomiting/diarrhoea episodes. Honestly it just seemed like two weeks never went by without him getting something. It all magically stopped when he turned 2 though and moved out of the baby room at nursery. He's 3.5 now and hardly ever ill.

My ds never spoke till he turned two either so I wouldn't worry about that.

Thanks tanfastic, im just so at the end of my tethe and so low. Hoping he will grow out of it and build up a good immunity but like you say stuck in the middle its sheer hell :(

Oh goodness you poor things All 3 of you are exhausted ,plus you and your dh have suffered a miscarrige, no wonder you are at the end of your tether.
Does your little boy still have his ear infection ? I take it he was on the liquid antibiotic (the banana one I can never spell !) Was it difficult to get him to take it, hence the trapped wind ?

Children at some stage ( I have had 5) go through a stage when they catch everything , its really difficult as you become to exhausted to even think let alone cope with all that it entails.

Try and keep to your routine and remember to rest when he naps. Housework can wait and dust doesn't get any thicker after 6 weeks !

Don't worry about his diet, I refused point blank to worry about veg intake, I just hid it in whatever I cooked, now mine eat even brussel sprouts without a comment.

The speech thing just needs encouragement from you, one of my twins refused to speak until we realised he had no need for it as he only had to grunt and point and some kind soul would get it for him! However don't stress about it, he will speak when its time.

I don't suppose someone could help you out for a few hours could they, I know we don't all have mums or the funds for extra help, but a family friend, neighbours teenager etc could be wonderful for a couple of hours .

Do take care and be kind to yourself, it will pass

Hi olbasoil
Yes it was the yellow one, not sure if it was banana or not. I stopped giving it after 6 doses. To be fair the rash looked viral and hes had no temp since. Was working a late shift yesterday and Partner had a torrid time putting him to bed. He went till 3 and in desparation i slept on his floor and the little sod laughed at me. He was fine with that tho and after an hour n half was able to sneak back to bed to my anxiety in peace. Strangely i seem to have mylittle lad back this morning, laughing, watching tv, and eaten two bowls of cornflakes. Im hoping and praying its the end of that bug and no more to come. DP has gone to work and im back on afters later. Mum is having him but we are looking at scraping money together for a nursery as my work are scrapping 12 hour shifts which means i have to work an extra day a week. yuk.