Rules for a 2.11 yo

[lucky24]

Our DS is a handful. I admit I have been soft on him and will make excuses for his behavior, so i have made a list of rules (like supper nanny) they are

1. no shouting (he has started shouting orders at me like "get in there you" "shh quite mummy" i dont think we shout at him but will be consciously looking out for it. I thought it was funny the first few times he did it so that may have encouraged him.)
2. no hitting
3. no throwing (apart from balls/ bean bags)
4. All meals must be eaten at the table

what punishments do you think are suitable if these rules are broken? (meal times are easy no more food apart from dinner and pudding at the table, so no treats in between)

I use a time out with my just 3 year old. So if I ask her to come to the table for dinner and she says a deliberate no, then I ask her again and say if she does not it will mean a time out. Obviously I give her a 5 minute warning, then 2 minute warning before I call her to stop playing and come over so it isn't a sudden shock.

Usually she sighs and heads for the table.

Otherwise she has to sit in the hall for 3 minutes. Then I remind her she had a time out for not doing as asked, get her to say sorry, cuddle her and we head to the table.

Basic supernanny stuff I think, but it works well at the moment. I don't need to use it much at all.

We use the naughty corner for our 2.8yo DD - she definitely knows when she's done something naughty, but not quite sure it does work...she has a stronger will than me and knows it! But I'm toughening up!

Thanks for the reply, my DS is a live wire and rarely sits still. I think trying to get him to sit on a naughty step will be too much trouble so we either strap him in his pram or put him in his room. Do you think this is an OK alternative to the naughty step?

I'm watching this with interest. I have a rather naughty spirited 2.9 year old who is running rings around me!

I don't think you should strap him in his pram or put him in his room. It might be more trouble to put him on the naughty step but you just need to do it and however many times he gets up you just have to keep putting him back, and putting him back, and putting him back. This is part of what beiing a parent is about, showing your child that you are the adult and they are the child and that they learn to do what you want them to do.

We have our "rules" written on a big piece of paper and stuck to the wall.

I went through them with ds1 (2yrs 9months (ish) ).

Ours are things like All food/drink to be had at the table, No climbing on chairs, stay behind the black line when mummy or daddy are cooking (a line of black tape I stuck to the floor a little way back from the cooker so they don't come near the hot cooker and I have my own little "space" to get on with making dinner)

If either of the boys does something they are not allowed to do, I say something like, "Excuse me ds1, what do the rules say?" usually this is enough for him to get back off the chair/go back behind the line etc. he's loads better now.

On the now rare occasions he refuses to do what he's supposed to then I do 1-2-3 Magic technique. Of he gets to 3 he has to leave the kitchen. He hates this as it's a big kitchen/diner and we spend most of our time in there.

He can come back in the kitchen after 2minutes or whenever he wants to start following the rules.

Dunno if I'm doing things right but it seems to be working for us.

Oh and with the one year old I just remove and distract at the moment but even counting to 3 works sometimes with him.

It's the one year old that's going to cause
Me all the trouble though.

Strong willed, stubborn little bugger darling.