Anyone moved to cloth with older children?

[MellowMeadow]

I have two children, DD (12) and DS (4), who have always wet at night and worn disposables.
Recently DD has become good friends with the son of a mum I've known for a long time. The son in question is an only child, and wet as well until 6 months ago. The mum has offered me his old terry nappies to use with DD if I wish, and I'm not sure what to say.

DD has been over their house a number of times, and is always put in a terry, seemingly with no issues. I've asked her about switching and she doesn't have any objections, as long as we have some disposables for nights when a more discreet one may be needed.
Before you ask, we've seen doctors about the bedwetting, tried various solutions and none of them have worked. The opinions we've received are that her body just isn't ready, so no calling us lazy please.

I'd be quite happy to move DD, and it seems so would she, only DS is not too keen on moving to cloth himself. He didn't really like the feeling the two nights we've tried, and I don't know if he'd change his mind if we persevered. We'd also have to keep some disposables for his occasional day issues.
So the question really is: Do you think I could move one child to cloth and leave the other in disposables, or does it have to be both or neither?

I appreciate it's unlikely anyone here has or has had a similar situation, but anything that's in the slightest related might help.

p.s. I can't find a perfect place to put this, so please move the thread if it would fit better some place else.

Why not? The thing is, the wee is more obvious for you to handle if she's in cloth, (increase in icky factor, but she's old enough to bung it in the machine & wash her hands), and what are you using for wraps? I imagine something like a Reb XXL would do the job if she's a slight build.

They're the old fashioned terry squares, so she'll have what we used to call 'rubbers' over them. I'm not sure of the origin of the covers we've been given, I could ask. It'll be quite obvious when she's in one, but she's only going to be in them at night and when nobody apart from family is around.

I'm putting her in one tonight, so we'll see how it goes. She's been in them before so should be fine, and we've had a talk about where she's putting them in the morning, as she can at least take them off herself.

We use Brolly sheets for our 8yr old and 5 yr old. You arn't being lazy it just seems that some children arn't ready. These sheets are reusable and go over normal sheets. Yes if they get wet they stay wet but the wee is absorbed quickly and dosn't run off. I have my dc's trained to remove sheet as soon as they wake so to avoid the rest of the bedding getting wet. We are having some success with dd2 who is wetting less oftern and ds2 who is having some success. We also wet to the bed wetting clinic and they aren't worried about children till they turn 8. They suggest drinking alot more fluid in the day a regular bed time and no fluid after 5.30. DD was dry for some time but regressed when we changed schools.

www.brollysheets.com/

I am now trying to be as relaxed as possible. We did try bed wetting alarms for dd but there were a lot of false alarms with it.

Thanks Nanny01,
I'll keep those in mind for if someone else asks me for advice, for now though we have been given the nappies and are using them.
We tried the alarm with DD too a few years ago, but it only thing it had achieved after a while was making her grumpy! I'm surprised your clinic said to stop drinks after 5.30, ours told us precisely not to do that as dehydration is more of a hindrance than a help.

They'll (probably) all get there in the end, patience is certainly a virtue in this case!

The clinic said to get them to drink more through the day and then from 5.30 in the afternoon no more. This worked for our eldest dd last year. dd2 and ds1 still have accidents. Lifting has made no difference. Both the dc's are good at taking their own sheets down and I no longer get cross which seems to help, but it is getting better. I do wonder if I should have tried at an earlier age as I wonder if some of this is ground in behavior.

If your dd is 12 then she may need further investigations to check all is ok. How are you securing the nappies as they must be quite small I know there are so wams who will make special nappies for older kids, pocket styles. Other than that pad fold the terry and see if you can find a wrap for it.

Motherease airflow wraps are probably your best bet as, as the name suggests, they let some air in and would be more comfy than plastic or rubber pants? Good luck! Are there any stress issues which might be causing the problem?

DS2 who is 5 has tried a few different types and these are his favorites. He says they are the comfiest.