how to help if at all, wwyd?

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There is the lady in our street with twin girls who are about 2, they live half way up the street from me so I don't know her. But everyday she pulls the pram backwards up and down the street for at least half and hour, obviously trying to get them to sleep, she looks knackered and at the end of her tether. I also hear them kicking off sometimes, terrible two's and all that.

My two are both at school now but I have not forgotten how hard it is at that age, I just want to go and hug her or take her a nice lunch or go push the pram for her. Or even just make her a cup of tea and a chat?

Will I come across as a psycho or smug if I offer to help? Any suggestions?

PS: I work from home so see this almost everyday.

Go and take her a cup of tea and a biscuit and push the pram for her. I bet she'd be very grateful.

Just go and talk to her. My mum did that when I was little - it turned out the mum in question had adopted the twins and was feeling really isolated. She is still friends with my mum more than 30 years on and my mum is really pleased that she plucked up the courage to talk to the lady.

I think you've got to try, even if you start small by giving her a wave. If she waves back, pop out and sympathise. If you hit it off, invite her in for tea when they've gone off to sleep!

And keep us posted.

Definitely make contact in some way, and I'd try a couple of times (even if it's just a wave at first) as you might catch her on a really off day if she's struggling generally. It's so hard having little ones that I'm sure she'd be really grateful.

Not seen her of late, due to the rain and snow, but I am definitely going to grand say hi (very quietly) next time I see her. Hopefully her dh is off over Christmas.