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Roodlepippin · 16/12/2011 14:45

Hi everyone. My DS is just about to turn 5 and is a really nice little kid in most ways. But he has always been prone to crying at the drop of the hat when things don't go his way. I thought it was something he would gradually grow out of, but it doesn't seem to be the case - in fact he seems to be getting worse / less able to deal with life's knocks and disappointments.

His teachers (he's in Reception) have commented on him being "a bit oversensitive" and one or two of his friends at school seem to enjoy winding him up and making him cry. It makes him seem very babyish and pathetic, and to be honest I find it a bit embarrassing.

I'm at a loss as to what causes it, or what I should be doing about it? I don't know whether he's genuinely heartbroken when someone else gets a toy he wanted, or whether it is a form of manipulation. I've been quite careful to avoid giving in to crying, but I guess it does succeed in getting him some attention, although it is usually the very negative sort.

I think I'm a fairly thoughtful parent (most of the time) but this behaviour really winds me up - it's so completely inappropriate to be dissolving in tears at every little thing! So I lurch from being sympathetic, to irritated, to yelling at him to stop crying.. and then back to sympathetic! I've even told him to stop being such a 'cry baby' at times, which didn't feel very constructive. Not very consistent or helpful, I know.

Any advice very gratefully received!

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naturalbaby · 16/12/2011 22:20

My 3yr old is very similar. I keep thinking about advice to encourage boys to discuss their feelings and emotions but I also really find it frustrating - mostly because it always seems to happen when I'm in the middle of something so I miss the build up and can't sort him out or give him some proper attention. I found it was worse when I wasn't spending much time with him or when things are really busy but focused on his siblings so try to give him regular activities to look forward too - swimming with dh, stickers for getting ready for bed, focusing on giving him praise regularly during the day.

janx · 16/12/2011 22:37

My ds just turned 4 is the same - I can really relate to what you are saying - am looking for new strategies as I am finding nothing really works

redlac · 16/12/2011 22:40

Watching this thread! My dd who is also 5 has always been quick to cry and over sensitive so I know exactly where you are coming from and I too have reacted like you.

So no advice but you are not alone and hopefully someone will come along with some words of wisdom for us both

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