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1st night without the dummy!!

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tinytotmummy · 09/01/2006 22:59

Been thinking about it for ages, but didn't have the heart, willpower, etc..DS is 27m and pretty much most of the time has a dummy and a teddy he takes everywhere. He won't sleep without either. Got really fed up with him today - wouldn't eat his lunch or dinner, kept asking for crisps, biscuits, choc, kept being nasty to his younger sister and screeching at me, so I chopped the end of his dummy!!! Is that really cruel? My friend told me she had done it with her little boy to great effect. When he asked for it tonight, he told me it was "broken". He didn't cry just asked occasionally and when I gave him it, I got the same response. It has taken him ages to go to sleep (10pm) but no screaming, as he has his dummy, just can't use it! I feel a moderate degree of success. Hope its the same in the car tomorrow....

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chipkid · 09/01/2006 23:09

think the important thing is not to give in now

sallycinnamon · 09/01/2006 23:24

Stick with it. The dummy fairy came to get dd's when she was about the same age. She was quite keen on the idea until it actually came to bed time and then she cried worse than she has ever done before- she was heartbroken, really grief stricken. However the next night she cried for only a couple of minutes and then not at all. She now doesn't miss it at all. Good luck!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 09/01/2006 23:29

We have done the same since Friday night. Had the dummy fairy come and get them.

Unfortunately she keeps finding ones she's stashed over the months but i think we've got them all now

She has been upset occasionally and thats when she has asked for it. But its been no worse a reaction that we got than we she would lose one and go hysterical wanting us to find it for her.

Stick at it - its more cruel to put your LO through to then give in than it is to persist IMO.

Good luck!

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bosscat · 10/01/2006 00:00

oh god I did the chopping thing last night. ds1 was completely grief stricken. it was like I'd chopped the head off his teddy. dh completely caved and gave him one so now back to square one. dh says we have to ease him into it. how?? either he has it or he doesn't.

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tinytotmummy · 10/01/2006 09:44

He slept through all night and still hasn't asked for it yet today! Was a bit upset this morning and screamed for daddy (daddy works away), but settled into his normal defiant toddler self after a bottle of milk.(Yes, still has a bottle!)Bosscat, my DH is exactly the same, which is why I've done it now. I phoned him to tell him what I'd done and he thought I was really cruel and was worried about what would happen on wed morning when he's home and has to look after the kids while I go to work!! If he gives in a shall be sooo angry. That's half the reason why DS in now such a fussy eater, but that's another thread..

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bosscat · 10/01/2006 11:21

that is a good idea actually. my dh works away from time to time and I'm fairly sure he has something coming up which will take him away for a week. That might be the time to do it.

persil · 10/01/2006 23:13

My ds1 3yrs 3mths left his dummies for the baby reindeers on Christmas Eve.... who left him a tool kit which he was happy with until he went to bed the next night!

He asked for them for about 5 days when he went to bed but since has not mentioned them and neither have I so I threw them all out a few days ago - stick with it

PS Ds1 still has a bottle too and is a fussy eater - are these all connected??

Aloha · 10/01/2006 23:17

My ds, who had a dummy for four years (night only) gave his up entirely happily a few months ago. No stress, just 'I don't need it any more' and off we went.

bosscat · 10/01/2006 23:52

oh god if only ds1 would do that. I asked him if he fancied not sleeping with the dummy tonight and he said "if you sleep in the playhouse".

hhhhmmmmmmm

Aloha · 10/01/2006 23:53

It got pretty chewed up and unsatisfactory beforehand, and he just outgrew it. I was amazed, but very pleased.

So you are off to the playhouse tonight then? Wrap up warm!

bosscat · 10/01/2006 23:57

no, the playhouse is in his room. I should have done it but I was in need of a glass of wine! I am thinking of telling him this is it, his last dummy, if he loses it there are no more. he asked me tonight if i was taking them "to the poor boys who don't have any" and when I said yes he said "noooooo, that's just mean, I'm very unhappy". (he's a bit of an actor)

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tinytotmummy · 11/01/2006 14:42

2 nights down with no dummy!! However, he has not been to sleep during the day and we have not been out in the car.
Persil, my dd still has a dummy to sleep with (she's only 1) and a bottle, however she will eat anything!! Honestly, she's like a baby dustbin, she eats everyone's leftovers! Maybe it's just boys....
Bosscat, are you going to again tonight?

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bosscat · 11/01/2006 16:32

no, I start a new job tomorrow so I want him asleep at 7pm! will try at the weekend I think.

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