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What age is it ok for kids to go to clubs without a parent?

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Jasnem · 09/01/2006 17:37

My DDs are 5&6, and want to go to Rainbows. DP is insisting that they are too young and I have to stay with them.
I think he's over cautious/paranoid, what do you think?

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hunkermunker · 09/01/2006 17:57

Tell him he's being a lunatic and that they'll grow up stifled and unaware of the world around them.

Then tell him that if he feels he missed out, you'll enrol him in Cubs next year.

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Jasnem · 09/01/2006 18:00

Lol Hunker, but probably a bit too close to the truth...
I think I will take them and either do the shopping or visit a friend 'til home time.

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Jasnem · 09/01/2006 18:00

Lol Hunker, but probably a bit too close to the truth...
I think I will take them and either do the shopping or visit a friend 'til home time.

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polly28 · 09/01/2006 18:02

I used to be a Rainbow Leader (halo emoticon)

Tell him all the leaders are police checked,and trained,they will benefit more if you're not there.

HunkersDSHasNoFlowertotGoodies · 09/01/2006 18:04

But if you don't tell him now, they'll be seven and eight and going to Brownies, then ten and eleven and going to Guides...and you'll have to keep up the pretence. He won't suddenly think it's OK without you telling him, will he?

I'd love to know what he thinks will happen to them at Rainbows, fgs!

codnotamod · 09/01/2006 18:10

nice name

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Jasnem · 09/01/2006 18:15

Just had to read the whole flowertot thread to understand the new name.

I will ask him later ( when kids are in bed) exactly how old he thinks they should be before they can do things unsupervised. DD2 does go to ballet without me, and they both do after school gym, which he does know about, but this is in the town centre and neither of us knows any of the staff - this is usually my way round it, to reassure him that I know/trust at least one adult there.

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NannyL · 09/01/2006 18:42

well my little charge started ballet at 2 3/4. Parents arnt even allowed to stay in the room or watch (except for their 1st ever class)

all the girls in her class at the moment are less than 3 1/2! and they have all been left for the past term!

FrannyandZooey · 09/01/2006 18:58

I think it is just a bit of a moment whenever your children start doing things by themselves. Dads can be notoriously over-protective of their daughters at any age. Maybe he is not ready for them to become more independent yet. I always feel very mixed feelings when ds does things by himself - proud and sad at the same time.

harpsichordcarrier · 09/01/2006 19:00

yes, madly overcautious
[hunker will you give it a rest about the flowerto stuff already]

HunkersDSHasNoFlowertotGoodies · 09/01/2006 19:36

Can't, HC. DS has just been pointing at the TV and saying "Fifi" over and over. We were deaf to it and DH has taken him up for a bath though

FrannyandZooey · 09/01/2006 19:43

What is a flowertot anyway? Should I change my name too? Will ds grow up deprived and odd in the playground if he doesn't have any?

HunkersDSHasNoFlowertotGoodies · 09/01/2006 19:51

There you go, FAZ - yes, def deprived child without Fifi

FrannyandZooey · 09/01/2006 20:05

Gawd, it looks chronic. I think they're just trying to do you a favour, Hunker...

harpsichordcarrier · 09/01/2006 20:33

oh I love it when you go all "inverted commas" about tv characters
like you said "uniqua" like it is some sort of exotic fruit
we all know you have a tv in your bedroom to watch Emmerdale and Big Brother

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Jasnem · 09/01/2006 20:57

Dp has finally accepted that he is being unreasonable. DD1 will go straight into Browniesin spring (she'll be 7) and I will start DD2 at Rainbows at the same time.

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FrannyandZooey · 09/01/2006 22:14

Steady, HC, I know you have missed me but you're getting over-excited about my little foibles. Is uniqua off the telly then? Seriously?

Jasnem, apologies for digression...I am glad dh saw sense but do be gentle with the poor man. I can relate to not wanting to let children out of your sight, and it is nicer than not giving a hoot, don't you think?

hunkermunker · 09/01/2006 22:16

Brilliant, Jasnem

And as an aside, Champs is chasing up the FLowertot stuff for DS, so all's well that ends well and other such Bill Shakey tosh.

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Jasnem · 09/01/2006 22:27

Uniqua is a charachter in the Backyardigans - it's worse than Fifi!

Thanks for the support. I'm going to bed now, imagining what he'll be like with 2 (or 3) teenage daughters to deal with if he thinks Rainbows is risky

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FrannyandZooey · 09/01/2006 22:44

Jasnem, thankyou for dealing with my ignorance politely and not accusing me of attention-seeking behaviour like some people usually do...

julienetmum · 09/01/2006 22:47

We take children from the age of 4 and don't allow parents to stay. The children end up getting distracted by parents and are a lot more self consious, watching to see what their parents are thinking.

It's not like them going to a birthday party with people they (and you)have never met. These activities are run by CRB checked people who know what they are doing and who your child will get to know well over the course of a term.

hunkermunker · 09/01/2006 22:48

FAZ, by bolding attention seeking behaviour, you wouldn't be...attention seeking, would you?

FrannyandZooey · 10/01/2006 08:49

GRRRRRRRRRRR, hunker. Did that get your attention ok? (I have enough with HC baiting me all the time without reinforcements joining in )

hunkermunker · 10/01/2006 09:05

mumeeee · 10/01/2006 13:10

He is being over protective. They would be fine to be left at rainbows by themselves. It is a yonger branch of the brownies and especialy for girls of your daughters ages. Tell him that they have to be allwed to grow up sometime.

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