So tired (9mo sleepless nights) being too impatient with ds1 (4)

[ohdarcy]

Feel like such a horrible mum. I am so so tired. Lately ds2 is not sleeping well and i work pt dh is sahd when i get home we all have 2hrs together then dh goes to evening classes til late. Ds1 is totally hyped after school and the minute i am in the door he wants to play with me and i don't want to! I am tired and want to sit down for a bit. Ds2 is cruising (and falling) and into everything and ds1 never stops. I get so grumpy and impatient with him and its not fair - he's only 4!

Please tell me i'm not alone but also .. How do i fix it??

You aren't alone. I have no idea how to fix it apart from get more sleep. DD2 (6mo) isn't sleeping. I'm being horrible to DD1 and DS. I know it is because I'm tired but I am just so snappy, shouty and generally nasty. I'll follow this thread for ideas, but I can't help.

thanks for replying. it is all good days and bad days but i just never have time to play with him anymore and feel rubbish about it. he either wants to play full on imaginative dressing up role play which i don´t have the energy for or playmobil which is a nightmare with ds2s sticky fingers about! i keep meaning to try and find time to take him swimming and leave ds2 with dh but the window of available time is so narrow i haven´t mentioned it yet. he has had such a change adapting to a sibling and has done really well, to be honest he seems to be taking it all in his stride but i don´t want to be a grumpy shouty mummy!!

I definitely know how you feel, but you will get back to being able to play properly again. I did - just before I got pregnant with DD2!

Actually I think GuiltyMum is right, even though she is jesting. Take a day and make sure you and dh get as much sleep as possible - tag team parenting, go to bed at 7.30, whatever you have to do. It might give you enough of a boost to get back on track.