Parenting after Seperation - Introducing the new partner..

[Lilgrey]

Okay.. Im really in a bind. I need your opinions.

When is it time to introduce your child(ren) to new partner and their respective child(ren)?

Is there a length of time of knowing someone or dating them that says - okay.. this is good. Or is it something you just know about each other that says the time is right?

Help!
Thanks
Lilgrey (Single mom of 3.5 yr old daughter)

My dh is step fathered and From his memory his s/d just kept popping in. Maybe a very slow gradual introduction with not much said about it is better than a grand formal introduction?

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Hi Lilgrey. I agree, do it gradually, but only when you're sure yourself that he is going to be sticking around for a bit. Also agree that if your child doesn't take to the partner, they're out (the partner, I mean).

Ideally, just all go to the park or have him round for tea, not a Big Introduction thing. Having said that, my daughter snuck downstairs and was heard as she was peeping at me kssing boyfriend 'goodbye'

Completely agree with everyone on here, ideally, do it gradually, informally and with out ceremony.

However as Tinker says, sometimes the best laid plans go wrong... My mother would have my daughter overnight and when new(ish) partner (now husband) stayed over, so desperate was my Mum to meet him that she turned up on my doorstep at 7 a.m. with my daughter. Needless to say dd was outraged to find strange male in the house and it took some working through to deal with. (Although they have wonderful relationship now.) But I was furious with my Mum for that thoughtlessness!!