How do I avoid get togethers between my DS and this boy

[Pebbleonabeach1]

There is a boy in my DS school who is always asking if my DS (yr 3) can go round to play or if he can come to our house. Trouble is my son is not really friendly with this boy (he never plays with him at school) and the last few times they have played together my DS has ended up in tears or in a really bad mood later on because this boy has been mean to him or said nasty things to him about my DD, who my DS is very close to.

Trouble is every time he sees us after school he asks to play. I try to make as many excuses as possible and to increase the time between them getting together, but it is getting very difficult and I am fed up with having to come up with reasons why not - especially as his mum is usually there with him. Any suggestions as to how can I get out of this without hurting anyone's feelings?

No is a whole sentence

I just say no we don't do playdates but that would be awkward if he knows you do with other children.

Absolutely no need for my do's to be slanty but I did it once on my iPad and now it does it for me every single time! Grrr

If anyone knows how to turn it off?

Just tell the truth. If they are not really school friends, no one needs to be offended at you saying no thanks

It does the word need too sorry op, totally off subject.

Your second do wasn't slanty! Weird though,...my iPad doesn't do that

agree with smalltownshame, just keep smiling brightly and saying 'not today'.

and keep reminding yourself of my very helpful mantra "state the facts, not the reasons" - you don't have to explain yourself to the boy or his mum.

Thanks for the advice. I think I will keep saying it to myself then hopefully I can do it when asked for real!