Broody! Quick - tell me why having 3 children is terrible, exhausting and very very expensive!

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So many reasons why #3 would be a bad bad bad idea but I am so broody! I just need to find that final, decisive reason why having another one would be wrong.... Stories, anecdotes, anything, please help I'm desperate!

this thread may help

It's all those things.........but I love it! Sorry!

I have 3, and like niamh, I do love it, and I really wouldn't have it any other way.

Occasionally, I look at my older two and think about how much life would be easier if we'd stopped there - not because DC3 is difficult, just because lots of things wouldn't be a problem. But I know that our lives wouldn't be half as much fun without him.

Good reasons not to have a 3rd:

• you are, officially, outnumbered. Together, there are more children than parents. If you're out by yourself, you have more children than you have hands.

• almost everything is based on a family of 4, e.g. holidays, hotel rooms, family tickets for things. At a push, family tickets allow you to have 1 adult + 3 children. Almost nowhere allows 2 adults + 3 children.

• Obviously, it's a third mouth to feed, so it's more expensive than 2 children.

• you are spread that much more thinly (this is progressive with every additional child) for everything, especially things like supporting them with school work, dealing with emotional issues, etc.

• cars and carseats can be a problem, depending on the age of your children. I had 3 under 3, so we had to buy a new car in order to accommodate 3 babyseats across the back of it.

But to be honest, I'm clutching at straws here. I could write you a much longer list of everything that's lovely about having 3.

I'll just tell you the bad stuff:-

Some children maybe having to share a room, hard to find hotel rooms (apartments/caravans/tents are the only way we can go on hol most of the time), if u work u probably won't be able to get time off to see 3x Xmas school plays, it's expensive!!! £30 per week on school lunches alone!, very hard to organise babysitters, when they're older and maybe want to go to activities eg football/dance there may be times when these clash and you can't split yourself in three! You need a 6 seater dining table and probably space for 2 large sofa's in lounge, if one child wakes up through the night they may wake tge whole house and it's hardtrying to settle everyone back down when you're exhausted/outnumbered......wouldn't change it for the world though!

I have three. They are 10, 7 and 5 and I love it now. If you had asked me 4 years ago I would have had a very, very, very different response. Having three really small children was almost the death of me. Now they are all in school, it's great! Do it!
That said, I probably wouldn't if I had to go to work. I suspect I do not have the strength of character to be a working-out-of-the-home mother of three.